How do you cope?

[missfeebs]

I was just wondering if any of you could help me with coping strategies?
Ds is 5 and has asd,spd and ld. Since starting y1 his behaviour has really gone downhill he constantly hits,screams and shrieks in my face, i know he sometimes can't help it but it is wearing me down.
He is always hitting dd who is 2 and even when i'm in another room i can hear the slap. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Any wise words would be greatly appreciated,thanks.

Has he seen ot for his SPd? My ds had a sensory diet from the ot. When he gets hyper or lashes out I use deep pressure on him.

Saintlyjimjams has a blog of her son surfing. He has autism not gdd but I watch the clips of him surfing when I'm feeling down and they do my heart good.

Also respite, ask nursery/school for strategies, camhs?

Thank you for all your replies and suggestions.
He does have ot and i remember sensory diet being mentioned so i will have a look into it.
Cahms discharged without ever seeing him, but it's the hitting of dd which i'm finding the hardest to deal with.

Cahms don't ever see kids with asd / ADHD yep things where I live. When my son hits his brother I squeeze his shoulders while pressing down. This is the easiest thing to apply anywhere I am. Just find that something that works for you

Is he struggling at school? I wonder if something is frustrating him or worrying him there and he is taking it out on his brother?

You can ask for a referral to a phycologist to help manage behavior for kids with asd in our area - perhaps contact parent partnership to ask what is available to you.

I really feel your pain. My Ds is 4 and sounds similar you your little boy. We don't have a diagnosis yet but he is constantly hitting his 2 yr old sister. It is so frustrating as it is constant and happens as soon as i turn my back. It can also happen in front of my eyes.
Dd is constant in my arms as she is so terrified of her brother.
My Ds has sensory issues and will be assessed for autisim over the next few months. He regularly requires deep pressure, lots of exercise, activity. And every evenin i put him in the baby bath for as long as he wants and if just loves it. Sorry i don't have much help as were in the same boat !

We used Aba to help my boy's behaviour (also autistic and LD)