Positive GDD crystal ball needed please!

[mommapiggy]

Having one of those days where struggling to see the positive side of things. DD 9yrs in SS with GDD, I know I've read some posts in the past about older children with GDD and how they're coping with life. Just would love to hear some real life stories of what the future really holds and what jobs/activities are feasible and any heartwarming positives that could switch the light at the end of the tunnel back on for me?

Adults I know personally who had GDD in childhood

1. escaped a bad marriage & is now a competent, happy single mum, often advising others at drop-in/coffee sessions. Including me
2. works in a supermarket, and is the go-to for checkout disputes
3. looked after mum for years, ok them but no proper plan for 'after'
4. has alcohol problem, but also moderate LD, not the main issue
5. worked for years as council gardener (semi supported job) and now retired on full pension, carers once daily

My dsis in her 30s has quite severe learning disabilities. She lives in a residential home and needs someone to go with her if she wants to go somewhere like the shops or the cinema. She can wash and dress herself and make a sandwich but has some motor skill problems, little road awareness and is very naive and trusting

But the home is lovely - she has her own room and access to shared areas for making cups of tea and watching telly etc. she plays in a band and does performances at local events. She goes to exercise classes and to a day centre where she does craft and is learning v basic IT skills. . She is capable of making her wants and needs very clear and seems pretty happy.

She likes her routine and is resistant to change. Not sure if this because of her learning disabilities or a sign she is somewhat institutionalised? But I think many of us get stuck in our ways as we get older.

Dsis has good communication skills and that has been massively important in her ability to enjoy life and as far as possible organise her life to suit her.

I worry about my ds who has autism as well as lds. He can speak but is not a great communicator. I worry that unless we are around his care will end up suiting the providers and not him as he won't voice his opinions clearly or even understand he had a choice.