after the recent debacle at school some of it here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1877466-education-welfare-will-i-risk-a-problem-here
i was advised by ipsea to send a letter asking for a meeting to be arranged with a senior member of staff and the senco and to talk about (at meeting ) having ds2 assessed by the additional needs woman asap but to have it in writing that they will do it in such a way he isnt aware of at least at first (Otherwise he will not go into school at all)
so , i sent a letter .
just had a call from a teacher who works in the behaviour unit (never taught ds2) asking to talk about ds2 , no clue about my letter, which should have arrived by now . she asked me how things were at home 
i said i would like to have this meeting rather than do this over the phone and she wanted to arrange a meeting just with her . i said i wanted a senior member of staff there and she said that it was her that puts things in place so i didnt really need that .i insisted and she has said that she will see me , along with the assistant head or head on wednesday.
now , i can guess what might happen . this happened before . i will turn up and there will be no senior member of staff present.
so , question is , should i decline the meeting if that happens ? im not even sure what coherent reason i have for insisting on a senior member of staff as my brain is addled . why should they be there , please put some words in my mouth !
this woman has just asked me a question i felt it was difficult to answer as i havent a clue how much she even knows about my son and she just said ' i just wanted a simple yes or no answer thriftychic' which was said in a snippy way and really quite pissed me off actually 