I just totally lost my temper

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I've been in hospital with ds2 (Wed night to yesterday afternoon) so obviously ds1's routine went to shit.

He was fine for everyone during this time. Now I have the two of them on my own today as dh has fucked off to work (his business so could have said no), I had to do all the dishes and put away all the washing that hadn't been done since ds2's admission.

Ds1 has recently been soiling (see recent thread if you wanted to) which is frustrating any day. Let alone today when I'm tired and stressed anyway. He's been melting down a lot today (prob due to routine changes past few days) and the icing on the cake was when I asked him to get dressed, he took off his pull up (he wears them for bed) swung it around scattering poo on his bedroom floor which I promptly stood in. I completely lost it and screamed at him.

Ds2 is still asleep through this, ds1 is at the tailwind of the meltdown which (unsurprisingly) followed me screaming at him in which he talks/rants to himself and you don't dare interrupt as the cycle starts again and is still not dressed and I don't know what to do for the rest of the day. Dh won't be home until at least 5.

Sorry that's not very coherent.

Ring your dh and make him come and help. Ring everyone you know and beg for help.

You should not have to do so much and I'm unsurprised you lost your temper.

Thanks both. Both boys are sleeping which I will pay for tonight but it's letting me get my act together.

Ds1 won't/can't sit through a film but I think a relaxing tv afternoon is needed. Will ask dh to bring dinner home.

polter he had a bad reaction to a small chest infection. It's his 3rd admission this year, first was for a tummy bug where he was in for a week and they thought he had meningitis he was so ill and the other for a high temp which shot his heart rate up to 202. That was beaten on Wed night with a 225 heart rate. I'm going to ask his paed to test his immune system as they were going to leave it until March to see how he went over the winter but I'm worried about what could be to come.

Rang dh, he's going to wrap up and make his way home. Thanks for listening. He did find the poo part funny (it's not for me but I can see how it could be funny, it's in the telling).

bath idea sounds good.
...or if you drive, can you belt them both up in the car open the windows and just drive to a drive through starbucks (for you) and just spend the next 20 minutes driving whilst just providing a running commentary on what you can see out of the windows...for extra sensory stimulation i open the windows till you ca hardly breathe with the wind wooshing in your face.

We all lose our tempers and actually, imv, sometimes it's not nec a bad thing if v occasional. It's important for all children to understand, somehow, that the world doesn't end if you do. And that some things make it more likely to happen. I'm sure you don't often do it.

Yup, after the sleep can you pack them in a car to go for a drive?

Sorry to hear about the issue.

We went food shopping to get out of the house. Peace is restored for now thank goodness.