Will things ever improve??

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The constant screaming, fighting, shouting, kicking, tantrums. Does it ever improve??
Ds is 4 and waiting on psychologist to see him for asd assessment.
He is very difficult to manage at home. He is my little boy, i love him and i feel so sorry for him as he has a severe language delay, and gets so frustrated. But there are times i just want to run out the door.
Has anyone here been where i am now and can tell me that things will improve.
Thanks

A lightbulb moment for me was realising I should never try to force Dd3 to move on from something until it was finished. I spent far too long dragging a screaming child out of the house or to the table or up to bed without realising that if I let her finish what she was doing she would come in a much calmer way.

Learn the sign for "finished" and make sure you never start a DVD 10 minutes before you have to go out.

I agree with polter about getting out of the house everyday. Go to playgrounds early or late in the day to avoid the crowds.
Aviod supermarkets and shopping centres, shop online.

I am not sure if it gets better so much as you learn the triggers and avoid them. Sensory overload is a massive problem so work out what upsets him and then put in support for him. So if its noise use ear defenders if its lights use sunglasses etc.

You will get there, keep coming on here for support. This board has helped me more than any of the Proffs we have met so far.

Good luck

Thanks for all the great advice. Yeah we have a good routine and we keep so busy.
I try and manage his sensory issues as best i can. I suppose my biggest challenge is i have very little support when dh is at work. My family live approx 4 hrs away so myself and dh carry the load between us. When dh is at work he is gone from 6.30 until 9pm so kids are mine for the day. Its exhausting to say the least. But anyway we'll keep going for now. Back to playschool Monday so a bit of respite with that.
Thanks again for advice. Great to know Im not alone

Will the psycologist visit help with a diagnosis? And, do you have any thoughts on what the issues could be?

I have watched a few videos on sensory diet and that has helped.

Also like other said, regular meals/snacks, wee and poop helps. A good multi vitamin and other supplementation helps some kids. Also, good therapy 20-25hrs/week is immensely helping us.

Can your other kids help? What about any teens in the neighbourhood?