Advice needed DS saying all the wrong things

[chuckeyegg]

For years I was desperate for my DS to speak now he is speaking he says whatever he is thinking. Asking me loudly about all sort of inappropriate things at very bad times. Asking people what they've done in the toilet. Today in Waitrose we were served by a lady with very short hair. When I said the lady he said it's a man and then became very insistent it was a man and wouldn't stop saying it.

DS is 7 and has ASD.

I've tried social stories, any other advise gratefully accepted.

Gosh chuckeyegg, sorry i cant help but as a mum with a non verbal dc at just turned 5 - can i ask what age your son did startt to speak. sorry , it just got my hopes up..

Lesley25 - DS had single words at 5 and really only in the last year has had the ability to put sentences together. I think reading at school has really helped. He still has a lot of repetitive language asking the same things over and over. Good luck. xx

PolterGoose

Thanks for the advise. I can understand the don't say.......It's like saying don't think of Pink elephants. I have probably been guilty of that. :D I have been whispering little sentences in his ear to say to people and that seems to be helping. x

Lesley25 My son is 6 and he was virtually non verbal at 5 (though he had more language than he showed at school). He's 6.5 now and recently had an explosion of words and language. For a long time there was a lot of (loud) echolalia but now his talking is more functional (ie what he wants) and very recently much more commentary. He started special school in September and I think this has helped him relax and develop a bit quicker. However, in some ways it shows up his lack of understanding more. He is also very demanding and hard work with it, like a 3 year old really. I am delighted but all half term it's been, "mummy, mummy, mummy" lol. I feel a bit sorry for my 9 year old cos he can't get a word in! I think it's difficult to compare though, I know a 9 year old with ASD and he is still mainly non verbal though seems more placid and less demanding than my 6 year old! I think with all our kids it's each day as it comes :-)

Thanks NameChange x
My child is the same with showing more words at home, but recently if i repeat the word and ask him to repeat (You say?) he repeats it perfectly. I then spend a couple of minutes saying and repeating the word and using the word again throughout the day..I cant tell you how many times i tried to get banana into the conversation...

But its getting there, the repeating of words has only been very recent - my biggest reward came the day before yesterday when i asked him to say "mum". And he said it perfectly! He didn't call me mum but i kept repeating it..my name is mum..

I've waited 5 years to hear my first born say it and it took my breathe away.

Hi chuckeyegg, no advice but I just wanted to share a little story with you.

I took my DS to the supermarket in the summer (normally I don't take him anywhere like that) and was nervous, dreading other people's reactions. He decided to read out all the names of the products loudly in a parrot's voice, so there he was babbling away, marvelling at the prices, being stared at by lots of other shoppers. There was one old man who in particular glared at DS, and at me - you know the look "you're a terrible parent, control him" look. I was feeling exactly that, terrible, when DS started chanting "Naughty man staring! Naughty man staring!" I thought the man was going to thump DS, he was so purple in the face. But I realised, actually he is right, that man is naughty, he was the one being rude and aggressive towards a young boy. I am so used to feeling awful and worrying what other people think, thank goodness my lovely boy reminded me just who should feel bad in these situations.

Sorry to ramble, my point is your DS isn't saying the wrong things, he is just being himself and if people don't like it then maybe they are wrong.