I need help convincing dh...

[RevoltInParadise]

I think I want to pull ds out of school. He made a list for me today of things he wants to change at school...

Stop picking on me
Start listening to me
Stop blaming me
Start letting me join in
Stop thinking i am telling lies
Stop annoying me
Stop trying to get me in trouble
For A; stop hugging me
For the other girls; stop trying to run away when I am trying to tell you something
For b; when I try to tell you something, stop saying go away all the time
For the other boys; stop trying to run away when I want to play
For c; stop waggling your finger and saying uh uh uh at me
Stop saying that someone is dealing with it when that someone is actually causing the issue... For example, c saying that D is the buddy when it is D leaving me out

They don't like me loads and they think I'm not nice when actually I am trying my best.

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It breaks my heart. Dh is not against homeschooling as such. His main argument is financial. I do work but it is part time in the evenings and the weekends. When the youngest goes to school the plan was for me to go back to work. Obviously the extra money would be good and it would reduce the burden on dh but we muddle along ok now. Yes we are over drawn sometimes but I think ds is more important than that,certainly I want him out before his self esteem is completely shot.

Help/advice?

That does look like a good letter (not that I have any experience of writing to schools). I hope you will have a productive meeting!

If you decide after all that home education would be a good way forward, it seems to me that the key is persuading your dh not to be too focused on the long term but instead to give your son what he needs at this moment, if that is possible.

I don't know how much longer it is until your youngest child goes to school and you plan to work longer hours. Perhaps you can persuade your dh to allow your son to be home educated just until then, and then take another look at your finances and the school options which are available to him at that time. Even if nothing has changed and the two of you decide that your son will have to go back to school so you can work longer hours, he still will have had a year or two of getting what he needs at home. The fact that you can't do it forever doesn't negate the benefits. (Alternatively, if you try home education and discover that it doesn't suit your son as much as you'd expected, it still will have been a valuable experiment. You might discover that school offers your son more than you realised. You can then rule HE out as an option.)