ds teacher has placed him on special measures

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No idea which section to post in really as its a shock to me ( although family friends all said... Yeah we thought so..)

Went to parents evening for the dt's just started reception saw dt2 teacher and he is flying along and making friends well and has already net all the benchmarks he needs for reception all good. Dt1 and Dd appointment was at same time so i went to dt1 and dh went to dd's ( lovely child doing well so he was told)

What dt1 teacher said knocked me for six really he cannot sit still and concentrate or focus on any task that he is bot completely interested in she did add he has made a huge circle of friends and play complicated games with everyone and is such a lovely little lad

She is going to get him a IEP and refer him ( can't remember to whom) I asked what she thinks his differences might be she sais she couldn't really say I suggested adhd as that was mentioned at his nursery and she nodded a bit

I feel guilty as I was trying not to compare the dt's. but seem to have overlooked t he struggles he's been having

Just after some advice really he has always been a challenge much much mire so than his brother and sister I just assumed that was his way I haven't had a boy before now I have 2 and am desperately trying nit to compare me and my twin sis were always compared

What a shock for you. It's actually brilliant news that she's seen your DS as a boy who needs help, not a boy who is naughty, which is so often the case.

With the right support, he can learn to focus when he needs to.

We are going through a similar thing and I feel like I've been punched in the gut.

After half a term in reception DSs teacher wrote an IEP without my knowledge and says he struggles to behave in an acceptable way or follow her instructions. He doesn't show any ASD signs that we can see, and I honestly think she doesn't like him. Her copious feedback is 100% negative. I spoke to the SENCO and we've got another meeting after half term. His class teacher has unilaterally decided he has a processing disorder, and I've asked her not to label him. When I asked what we could do at home to help she suggested I go on a parenting course!
She's new to teaching and I do wonder if she's coping. My son is a lovely happy child but can be very wilfull. I don't think his lack of compliance means there's anything wrong, but in order to do diligence to his teacher I've asked our HV to refer him to the paed team. She has done the form but said they probably won't take him as he isn't "severe enough".