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its to bloody scary what can happen to our children as they get older, this has horrified me[sad]

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redbull · 05/07/2006 08:28

heard it on the news a hospital in cornwall that takes on mental health patients including autism have been found seriously abusing the patients from sexual abuse to tieing them down

its scary what the future holds for our children

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Mytwopenceworth · 05/07/2006 09:05

i know. i want my 2 to be as independent as possible, but realistically i know they will require supported living, maybe ending up in a shared home. it is something that has always scared me. i used to work within the care sector and i know how bad it can be. not only actual abuse, but so much apathy and staff who just dont put the heart in!

i know of a home where the staff have been known to have nights out (off duty of course) but go back to the home, pissed, and get the person on sleep-in to let them in and they crash out on the sofas, rather than get taxis home!!

on the run up to christmas the residents go out to town shopping daily - sometimes twice daily - and the staff get their christmas shopping done!!

jenk1 · 05/07/2006 09:38

my alarm went off at 7am this morning and i heard this on the news i couldnt believe it, its so horrible, why do people have to act like this towards other people that are helpless and dependent?

Its so upsetting especially for us mums of SN kids and it doesnt make you feel good about your childs future does it?

r3dh3d · 05/07/2006 09:42

This is the thing we worry about most for DD1 who is very pretty and blonde and smiley. I used to have all sorts of goals and worries about her educationally. These days, I'm just trying to get her to the point where she can tell us if someone hurts her.

Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 05/07/2006 10:32

Heard this and was absolutely horrified. Really don't know what to do about the future, ds1 is going to need 24 hour care.

giddy1 · 05/07/2006 10:47

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merlot · 05/07/2006 10:48

Makes me feel physically sick

heartinthecountry · 05/07/2006 10:53

I just hope with all my heart that I am always able to look after dd, or someone I know and trust is. As terrible as it is to say this, this kind of thing is the very reason a tiny part of me is glad that dd has a limited life expectancy. At least I probably will always be here for her.

Jimjamskeepingoffvaxthreads · 05/07/2006 11:11

There's always an excuse. Nowhere near as bad but I complained to Virgin when I saw a shop assistant being incredibly rude to a customer with learning difficulties (I was livid- he was out with a carer buying something for himself,by himself- ie bloody achieving- and some bitch of a girl decided to talk down to him and sneer at him) and that was brushed aside.

expatinscotland · 05/07/2006 11:14

Thomcat · 05/07/2006 11:18

Can't read links, bit head in the sand of me but just can't.

fattiemumma · 05/07/2006 11:25

as im single i realy worry about this so much.
i used to worry about DS's educational standards...trying to get him to read his name etc.

now i just concentrate on teaching him things that would mean he could live independantly with support. it saddens me to think my DD will end up looking after her brother if i die.

ntt · 05/07/2006 22:06

I wish staff looking after 16+ years could be as caring and dedicated as the ones looking after the little ones, I guess it's just not as appealing though

Hi Giddy - I used to be on the June thread, hope things are coming together for you all. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for you to make that decision x

sphil · 05/07/2006 22:19

I heard this on the radio this morning and it made my blood run cold. Being an older mum makes it worse - I try not to, but sometimes I calculate how old DS2 will be if I live to 70, 80, 90 etc.
I really identified with the mother on the video Davros linked us to a few weeks ago - at one point she said " I can never die ". That's how I feel.

Being realistic though, I'm aiming for 110 ...

sfxmum · 05/07/2006 22:28

i feel awful about this story and really quite angry as do many of my peers.
i work hard to provide a safe nurturing and person centred environment for the adults who live in the houses i manage. i can honestly say there are really good services, not that it will ease the mind of any parent.
so so sorry this has happened to cause you even more worry, but i think that issues of care both for SN and elderly should always be at the top of the agenda it is a worthwhile job. it is a measure of a society how it cares for its vulnerable. unfortunately far too many just don't care.

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