errr....aspergers help?

[1805]

Hi. I have a question that I'm hoping someone on here can help me with please?
dd (8) has just had an assessment regarding out of control rages and sensory type quirks. However, I was quite surprised that she's being referred for an aspergers assessment next.
I have read up on girls and aspergers, but dd is so sociable and has no problem with eye contact or making friends. Although I can see some traits in dd, is it possible to have aspergers AND be sociable?
I am quite happy to be led by the professionals on this, but whilst we wait for the date to come through, thought I'd ask here.
Any thoughts anyone? Thanks.

Recommend this video - he explains Aspergers in girls too

Sound quality is quite poor and it's worth skipping the introduction but it explain sensory issues etc.

I have a son with Aspergers so have been on quite a few training courses etc and it does seem that girls with Aspergers outwardly are quite different from my son....

Girls seem much more able to socialise, they seem to chat with others easier and be able to play games without looking like the odd one out.

Experts think its because girls copy other girls and realise how important this is to making friends. Boys either dont realise this, cant do it, or like my son just cant be bothered.

I also think girls communicate and play in ways that are easier for ASD children to join in ie they laugh, they hug each other, they sit next to each other colouring, they chatter incessantly.

sorry, meant to add that whatever name they give it, I hope you find the answers to minimising your daughters rages, I know from personal experience how debilitating these can be to family life.

thanks.
I am happy to go along with whatever the experts say of course. Maybe she is aspergers then.

1805 my dd was similar to yours at that age-no problems with friends,socialising etc just a bit shy.Fast forward to now ,she is 16 and recently been dx with AS.Everything changed with adolescence as the gulf appeared between herself and her peers.Her social skills are now appalling and she has terrible social anxiety also.She really camoflauged it very well.
I wish she had been picked up at a much younger age.Go with it if they have suspicions..they are usually right.

Well, the rages seem to stem from not getting her own way, or things not happening that she wants to happen, or vice versa.
For years we have just presumed it's been our poor parenting that has 'created' her like this, (older ds is fine!) but I really don't think so any more. I even phoned up 'Super Nanny' tv prog once but didn't want to be on tv so they said I couldn't even talk to her.
I am dreading her teenage years.........
I found the book The Explosive Child really good, but my kindle is now lost and I was only 3/4 of the way through. Don't suppose anyone can tell me about the last part of the book????

I have an 11 yr old Dd who fits the profile for Aspergers, her diagnosis is Asd. She has "friends" at school, she can muddle along with other girls, she misses lots of social cues though and likes to be in control of social situations.

She has one really good friend but makes me flinch sometimes with the way she behaves towards her. The friend is just lovely and keeps coming back for more, bless her.

Dd3 is an absolute master at masking her difficulties at school but then she has massive meltdowns at home because she is emotionally drained at the end of the day.

She doesnt cope well with change or anything unexpected.

We are also nervous about puberty and are getting some support into place now before it all kicks off.

Good luck