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RinkyDinkyDoo · 24/10/2013 21:14

To cut a long story short, my niece took the piss out of DS today. She's 8 and very bright, she knows DS has very delayed speech and ASD.

She wouldn't have done it if her parents were there and is fully aware of DS's problems. She normally reduces/adapts her language when speaking and interacting with DS, but today she went out if her way to repeat what he said and mimic, question his sentence structure and looked bemused at what he was trying to say and took things off him which he was playing with and just generally tried to make him look like a fool.

My dad was there and agreed she was being a cow, and when I asked her why she was being so mean he was fully supportive. She didn't respond and I didn't ask her to explain.

It just struck a chord of how vunerable he is, even though he is totally unaware of how upset I am and how she was taking the piss out of him.

I left before her parents, my brother and SIL, arrived to pick her up as I was so cross and upset
I know she's a child, she's never done this before, I don't expect her to try and engage with DS and she is normally very accommodating, she was probably tired from school, but wow she has pushed a button and to be honest has made me cry, quite a lot.
Just needed to write it down.x

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PolterGoose · 24/10/2013 21:23

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RinkyDinkyDoo · 24/10/2013 21:36

Thanks Polter, i like your words.
i made a point of ignoring her after what she did. She knew full well how I felt, and to be honest she knew what she had done.
I left before they arrived so I didn't get her In to trouble, as both DB and SIL would have told her off.
Just made me feel rubbish for DS's sake especially as my skin is not as thick as normal and am quite sensitive at the mo.x

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RinkyDinkyDoo · 24/10/2013 23:07

Thanks zzzzzz. I've just been talking it thorough with DH. He says she's just a child, and whilst I agree, it's also been quite helpful, as I've admitted to DH I've basically hit rock bottom emotionally.
I've had a good old cry and DH, who is usually quite emotionally dry, has been unusually supportive and explained to me his coping strategies, and we've had a good old chat about DS's difficulties and how to support/ move forward and who's help we need.
We both agree no one else understands the pressures we're under and who we need to step up and help us move forward.
So in a positive light, we're onwards and upwards again, until we meet he next stumbling block.x

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