Please tell me that somehow ds and I will get through this.....Just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel yet ...

[bizzey]

Sorry ...me again about my yr5 ds...

the anxiety that school is causing him (and me) is just getting bigger and bigger and I am getting...well "scared" and worried for him.

School have been fab and are doing all they can to help him but he is not meeting them or me 1/2 way.

He has always been defiant and confrontational with me in private but now he is showing it at school.

He struggled with a TA this morning while she tried to stop him running after me ... (I know..I know ...I shouldn't have looked back !)

I hate seeing him this upset.

My mum suggested I dont let him go out to play on his bike ...only on days when he goes in without a fuss....But that seems like I am punishing him for something he can't help.

I just wish I could understand what is going on in his beautiful little head.

Saw GP yesterday who said anixety would be causing him his tummy ache and throat to be sore so gave us some Gaviscone for acid refux.

When will it get better?...How "firm" do I have be ...I have been doing loving/understanding/jolly/firm/lots of kisses/chats/tell me the problem sort of thing....and just not getting anywhere.

There does not seem to be "a" problem ...It is everything...

Took him back after the GP appointment yesterday and it was the school dinner choice that was the problem....They made him a cheese roll instead !!

School are going to loose their patience with him soon !! They trying everything !!

Sorry it is long ..but I was reading a thread earlier about how annoying drip feeding was !

Thanks

(blimey.. reading this back ..he sounds like a right ungrateful brat...which actually is what I am thinking as well so don't mind if you do too !!)

On a positive note....at least school have witnessed it ...and so will believe me when I say he has "issues"

Wish I had a magic trick to suggest as I have one like this too. As Polter says lowering the demands at home does help a bit and keeping home a safe place rather than punishing for things that go on at school. In the meantime and to get through the day.

Thank you both for your replies. You are right ..I can't punish him for it...Don't even think rewarding him if he went in without a problem would help either ??

My mum does not know that they are looking into aspergers as it would be too much to explain to her and for her to understand.

He is academicaly behind ...but bright enough to know it .

He has external Lit support teacher who gives him work to do with me and school have used her spelling work as his weekly spelling test and not yr 5 spellings to reduce anxiety over homework.

I just can't wait to pick him up today and look forward to the weekend !!

He won't talk to me about it . I asked where did he go after I left...did they take him into assembly.
His face went blank and said he did not want to talk about it .

I didn't push it ..just gave him a kiss and a hug.....well I put my arms around him while he there frozen with his arms by his side.

It must be so draining for him because it sure is for me !