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can anyone help re dd's social skills

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armani · 17/10/2013 19:39

my dd is 7yo and has global learning difficulties. She is very immature in alot of ways, her motor skills and visual perception skills are delayed and are around the age of a 0-4 yo. She has a speech disorder and her use of language is also delayed. She is accedemically behind her peers and working within P levels. she currently attends a ms school with little support, just waiting on proposed statement but that's another thread.
dd is very eager to please other people and very easily led. She also finds it difficult to manage her feelings and often cries that she is hungry when she is tired etc. Lately at school she has been teasing some of her friends, calling them fat Sad
I have tried talking to her explaining that she is hurting her friends feelings etc but she has no empathy and just doesnt realise that what she is saying is wrong. She thinks because her friend is bigger than her that she is fat and that is that Sad She doesnt understand why her friend is upset or why it is not nice to say things like that. She has also been encouraged by her friends to kiss boys. I know that all dcs do this at some point but I am worried as she doesnt understand why this is inappropriate. she will seem to do anything to please her friends even if it means she gets herself into trouble.
Sorry if im rambling but before now ive always thought dd was on par with her peers socially. Now that she is in y3 the cracks are really beginning to show Sad
Does anyone have any advice? I really dont know what to do to help her.

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PolterGoose · 17/10/2013 19:51

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armani · 17/10/2013 19:57

She is on SA+ and has involvement from EP, SALT, OT and pead. EP has recomended a social skills group and OT has recomended full time 1:1 including supervision at lunch and break times but school are not implementing any of the above, nor has the advice been included in proposed statement. I have written to LEA asking why they have basically ignored their own advice but have yet to hear back from them.
dd has an IEP but it doesnt include any social targets or provision.

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armani · 17/10/2013 20:11

They arent actually doing much tbh. She has 2 hours a week 1:1 outside of the classroom for literacy and maths support. School are arguing against all of the professionals and not implementing their recommendations, even small things such as visual task planners and triangular pencils etc.
I constantly feel like im fighting a loosing battle Sad

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armani · 17/10/2013 20:21

The main reason I wanted to keep her at this school was due to her being settled and having friends etc and despite the lack of support dd seems oblivious to it and is quite happy there.
Also the LEA have suggested that this school should be named on her statement and I have no idea how I would get her to another school as I am yet to pass my driving test and her siblings attend the same school.

I feel like I am failing my dd. Its awful as I feel like the other parents are staring and blaming my parenting, they have also been complaining to the school, rightly so, but I just dont know what to do as dd wont accept that her behaviour is wrong Sad

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armani · 17/10/2013 21:13

Thanks polter. Its good to know im not alone. Im noticing how vunreable my dd is Sad

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armani · 17/10/2013 21:14

vulnerable Blush

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