What do I do?

[RevoltInParadise]

So, ds has had a hard few years. He has just been diagnosed with ADHD, social issues and anxiety. We got told all this but are waiting for the letter to be sent to confirm it. He is Also being put on the waiting list for the multi disciplinary assessment for aspergers.

He has an issue with s particular strong personality child st school. He feels he isn't learning any thing. He has no friends. :(

He has said this afternoon that he sees no point in school, that he is 'standing still'. This isn't the first time he had not wanted to go. He has previously asked too move schools but there are no places in any near us.

This came about because I was chatting to him about his treatment if his siblings. They are not there to be his personal punch bag. Not am I. I can tell he has had a bad day because he comes out and punches me.

He says there is a box in his head that gets filled with frustration during the day and when it gets opened at home it just explodes and he is angry.

What do I do? Where do I go from here? I need suggestions and ideas because I am new to all this and it is breaking my heart. He is just getting to the age (8) where he notices that such and such a person has a circle if friends and he doesn't and that's what he wants.

I feel stuck because I need the letter to make my point with the school to help him but I called and they can't say when we will get it.

I also need to think if my other ds, who bears the brunt of it, and my dd who he lashes out at occasionally. They shouldn't have to put up with their brother bullying them and no punishment seems to stop him doing it. :(

Ask for a meeting with the educational psychologist, you don't need a dx for that. Then find out about having an iep/asp put in place to help him at school.

For something more immediate to do with his frustration, you could get him a punch bag and he could use it to vent after school. You can pick up a cheap one from Argos.

Are there any after school clubs he could join too? This could improve his social skills and get him more excited about school.

My sons school has an autistic base where he goes to have social skills classes, but our local integrated children's unit (I'm in Scotland so am not sure if it's called something different where you are?) have social skills classes for children aged 8 and over.

Look into local autistic charities/support groups, my local autistic charity take children who are just about to go through the dx process as well as children already dx. The parents and children all meet up and it's a great source of support and an opportunity for your son to make friends.

Good luck.

You don't have to have an ASD diagnosis to use this

It's actually called circle of friends.