What do I do now??

[blueeyedmonster]

Ds is under camhs. School have never listened to what I have to say about him and just pass things off as his age/all kids are xyz/ salt will sort it. So we're into to yr1 and of course things are the same. Things are getting worse in fact. Camhs called the school to tell them about some of his traits (no DX) and some strategies to help. They are still insisting there is nothing happening or showing at school. Yet they picked him apart to me for almost 15mins whinging about his traits and how he can help it and they are telling him off for it and will move him down on the behaviour thing "which he is scared of". I'm fuming. Camhs will talk to them again. Meanwhile they will jus tcontinue to make him feel horrible for things he can't control. So.pissed.off. Actually that's an understatement.

I am going private while waiting for the NHS to catch up. It's a year long waiting list here. I can't wait that long. He's finding school hard enough as it is without being made to feel like "he's bad" in his words.
It's right in front of their face and they just don't see it. He won't respond to this stuff. He came out looking forlorn today I hat ethics. I was so close to running back in there today and pulling him out until we see the phsyc.

CAMHS are not educationalists and schools are not psychologists.

That's where the role of Educational Psychologist bridges the gap.

I'd ask CAMHS to talk to the LA Educational Psychologist, who should then talk to school and help school devise strategies to help your DS.

I'll see what they say at my appointment at the end of the month. Thanks.

Write down in detail what you remember of that 15 minute conversation moaning about his traits, and send it to the school saying that you just want to confirm your discussion. If they don't come back and say that it never happened, it's on the record and they will have much more difficulty later denying that it happened. And do the same every single time you hear of an incident in school or have them moaning at you. With luck you will build up a body of evidence that demonstrates their denial of problems is rubbish.

Thank you, I'll do that later and keep a record. At least then I'll have a record of what they are saying then.