Dear readers,
I have a 10 year old son who has Asperger's and hypermobility. He was diagnosed just over a year ago. At that stage, he was mainly having trouble at school with concentration, socially and also poor handwriting.
However, since the time of diagnosis, his behaviour has somewhat evolved and his behaviour has become very difficult to manage. He has a 3 year old sister and 2 year old brother who he has trouble getting along with. i.e. constant fights-sometimes dangerously so- on a daily basis- to the point where I am having to supervise them all the time.
Without going into much detail, the main reason for my post today is that I really do not know where to turn. HE is having frequent tantrums and meltdowns, sometimes rather unpredictably. My other kids are being exposed to his frequent outbursts that are sometimes rather scary. My daughter has just started nursery and to be honest it is not going as smoothly as I would have liked as she has picked up some behaviours from her brother.
Every time I think of approaching his teachers etc. I feel like am letting him down by "talking negatively" about him. He is very sensitive of any kind of criticism and I feel like I am betraying him. Other than his problematic behaviours mentioned above, he is a very pleasant boy who does well when his siblings are not around (which is, of course, very rarely).
He does not have his own room and gets very distressed when we come into his room. He is very protective of his "possessions" which could even happen to be a rolled up toilet tissue paper which has been folded in a particular way.
Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks