getting dd out of bed

[sunnyweatherplease]

I have recently posted about dd on here and was relieved to receive helpful ideas instead of condescending raised-eyebrow-type-of-thing.
SO, we are awaiting PCHAMS for dd (8) violent/angry/stubbornness things, but school says no problem there, so progress is slow.

This morning dh and I were both late to work, dd late for school. All because dd refused to get out of bed. She is a good sleeper and sleeps for 10-11hrs every night.

Even if she is tired, she still has to go to school.

Please tell me what to do.

I have just started waking ds2 half an hour earlier but then letting him stay in bed for a while which has helped as he can have a few more minutes in bed. He usually will then get out of bed before being asked. I try to minimize the number of requests I make on him in the mornings as he is very demand avoidant.

For ds1 I turn on the TV news and he is enticed out of bed.

She has a "two wake ups" routine already. Uniform laid out for her, the right type of socks ready, usual breakfast ready in bowl, favourite babysitter due tonight....

Am feeling very down today.

It would be difficult for ds to get up and straight away get dressed, he struggles with transitions and lots of sensory dificulties. He needs some time to prepare, especially when getting dressed to go to school, something else he finds stressful. He doesn't like the feel of clothes at the best of times.

We do something similar to Polter, ds wakes up, comes down stairs, TV on, he sits with a blanket over him and eats his breakfast. Gives him 15 mins of so before we need to start getting dressed etc.

I do something similar as Polter. A bit of TV time first tends to work with DS.

My DS gets out of bed - but his problem is getting dressed. So, in the past, I've also used an egg-timer and he has to beat the egg-timer for getting dressed. It worked every-time. I lapsed doing this when he was out of school, but I think I'll be starting it again because his "getting dressed" on a school-day is going back to how it used to be.

Oh yes Towiela reminded me, we used to use a getting dressed sequencing chart ie the order and pictures of what to put on first, second etc.

I find my perfectly capable boy, all sense/skills go out the window when he is stressed or anxious or being asked to do something he finds difficult. (he does struggle with organisation, sequencing, putting things on back to front, socks, buttons etc and hates the feel of anything but soft pj's on his skin, particularly when stressed) but can dress himself (with prompting and a bit of help)

Like Claw, the sequencing of getting dressed certainly effects my DS and we have to get the sequence exactly right. The other thing I do for him is put all my DS's clothes on the radiator to warm them up before he puts them on. Because it's only "radiator" heat, he knows he's only got seconds to get them on himself on before they cool down again