ds1 is 14 and has severe behavioural problems,is blind in one eye,and has epilepsy.
weve just got yet another social worker (its our 4th in a year)and shes only met ds twice,1st time was when she was leaving and she said hello to him,2nd time was yesterday and she saw him for 15mins.
anyway,because of ds's problems,we dont let him go out with his friends unless there is an adult there aswell.his friends live over 30 mins drive away aswell in another village,so socialising would be hard.
this new social worker decided that she knows ds so well now,that she made a 'deal' with him yesterday.ds wants to be allowed to go out with his friends,and this social worker told him that if he behaves for the next 2 weeks,and doesnt steal anything (he steals things from us,my mums and if we go in shops he tries to take things) and if he doesnt hurt any of my other children (he loses his temper and lashes out),then i will trust him and let him go out!
i couldnt believe it when she said it!she doesnt know him like we do.yes it may seem unfair that we dont let him go out unsupervised,but he has the mental age of a 6 year old,often gets violent which usually leads to him having a seizure and his tendency to steal things!
she said i need to let go and allow him to mix with his friends,which would involve him going on a bus on his own!!!
sorry to rant,but im angry and upset.ive tried to ring his psychiatrist and tell him,but hes not available.
when the social worker told him this,i just said i didnt agree with this,and she kept saying i needed to trust him.now i just dont know what to do.ds thinks hes going to be able to go out on his own,if i say no to him now he'll get really angry and upset with me.
im really hoping that someone can offer some advice.