How do i calm myself with regards to primary school place?!

[MrsPear]

So i am in a state i know that. But i am so frightened that my darling little boy is going to left in a shit school falling further and further behind before he even gets to the end of reception. One local school is deemed totally unacceptable in its behaviour and attitutes to children with diabilities - quote from Ofsted- what is the betting he ends up there?! He won't get a statement despite severe hearing loss (wears aids in both aids) and speech delay as he is not deemed disabled enough/not got learning difficulties. DH says do what you think best and doesn't seem the least bit concerned. His pre school by the way is wonderful and he has made such wonderful progress.

Someone calm. I feel like i am going to explode.

Thank you for the It was our SALT - is that right?! who didn't think he would be given a statement although he has SIPS support at pre school. In order from distance from my post code it is two special measures, then a good one then the one with the terrible report re special needs also it is in special measures then the outstanding one. All schools have at least double applicants for school places. I can't even get a confirmed date for visiting two of them. It just feels such a huge decision for one adult! I asked his SALT and ToD but they don't know the schools around here.

I think you can put the Ofsted report for the shit school in as social and medical evidence as to why it must not be considered for your ds.

As for the rest of it, if your child is broadly a mainstream school candidate and not hugely disruptive, it tends to be standard to be told your child won't get a statement.

There is an appeal process if you apply and are turned down but tbh, many hear in no uncertain terms that their child isn't severe enough and get given one on first attempt.

Generally, not exclusively, Outstanding schools are to be avoided for their arrogance and expertise at creative accounting and fudging the books ime.

Less 'outstanding' and schools that sruggle for pupils are much more likely to work in partnership with parents.

But, are there any schools for children with hearing impairment units in your LA?

Oh don't believe what the SLT told you. You have every right to apply for a statement, even if you don't get one in the end.

Agree, Ofsted means nothing. Make your own judgement.

Thank you everyone. I am a little calmer now. DH has agreed he needs to help more. I am going to look on the application form to see if there is somewhere i can plead for him to not be sent to the shit school. My LA doesn't appear to have a hearing unit per say for primary children but does for secondary but it seems to be those who are profoundly deaf who can't communicate by speech. There is another form which my LA has which is for social and medical reasons. I am going to ask questions at my preferred school and if i am correct that have in place SLT provision then i am going to ask my SLT to support ds's application.

I have a plan and that makes me calm Thanks again

Go and see this school. Ask your LA for a place. Make it clear that if they say no to a statement, the minute your DS falls behind you will take them to tribunal for specialist indie residential provision, and you plan to win.

I think a HI unit in a decent primary will suddenly turn up.

It can be in the next county. Other option is a speech&language unit with lots of bought-in specialist teacher of HI support (at least half a day weekly)

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Or finish off early years (ie reception) in a carpeted Montessori unit with small groups and lots of 1-1. Cost to LA isn't massive so they might not fight.

Have you talked to your Teacher of the Deaf about your options? DD2 sounds as though her hearing overall is probably slightly better than your DS's and our ToD thinks we could well get a statement (I don't think she needs to be in a Deaf school, but would like her to go to the mainstream school with an attached HIU, if we can manage it, and that may well involve having it named in a statement).

You could also call the NDCS helpline; one of their family officers (if you have a good one locally) could help you with this if your SALT and ToD are a bit ineffectual.

Hi
I am in a similar situation, , my little girl is globally delayed and possibly autistic and have been told that there is a chance she might not be statemented. I am going out of my mind with worry and our local school has a very bad attitude towards SEN. This weekend I have come to the conclusion that I am not going to take no for an answer and if the school will not refer the child I will do the referall myself and if it gets denied you can appeal, and if that appeal fails you can get a further appeal in a higher court. If she still doesn't get a statement then I will go into the school myself and provide a 1:1 or I will homeschool her, but it is such a worry. She is currently at a SEN nursery and gthey are so brilliant, I wish she could just stay there another year. Let me know how u get on xxx