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Urgent help please ds8 strangled by another child at school

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 08:57

Hello everyone my ds8 was strangled by another boy in the playground yesterday I had left him to get the bus and another parent had to intervene which I am grateful for .As it was dd2s birthday yesterday my dd1 picked up ds and the boy who attacked my sons mother came over and shouted at dd! Dp and I have kept ds off school today and are calling the head this morning any advice as I am beyond angry?

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 09:11

Sorry should have mentioned he has. Diagnosis of high functioning autism

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iwanttoscream · 25/09/2013 11:03

Sorry i've not been in this situation, but if i had i would WANT it to be recorded that someone had strangled my child, and dealt with accordingly.

Miffle · 25/09/2013 11:16

Sorry to hear this has happened to your DS. When something similar happened to my DC recently we emailed the school so we had a record of the incident and followed it up with a meeting with the headteacher. Parent partnership were also helpful (although I think that depends on where you live) in getting supervision for my DC out of the classroom. HTH

senmerrygoround · 25/09/2013 11:16

Set everything out in writing. Ask the parent who intervened if she will put in writing what happened.

Send it by email and follow up with a phone call asking for a meeting. And take someone with you to the meeting.

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to your ds.

mrsbaffled · 25/09/2013 13:13

Yes definitely report it. I went straight to the head when this happened to my boy. I wrote a serious letter to the form teacher, and sent a copy by email to the head. She acknowledged it and made sure it was dealt with properly.

Yes, involve the other parent too.

WetAugust · 25/09/2013 13:31

Letter to the Head. A phone call is not sufficient documentation of this incident - a letter is.

Write in the letter what happened. Name the boy who attempted to strangle him. Copy the letter to the Director od Education within your LA.

Ask the school for a copy of the Serious Incient Report they should have completed - and should have sent a copy to the LA.

Photograph any injuries your son may have.

I would consider involving the Police and would make sure school knew that i was considering making a Police complaint.

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 16:15

Thank you everyone the head phoned dp today and suggested breakfast club .dp said maybe we should move ds school and she agreed which I feel is trying to blame ds .

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WetAugust · 25/09/2013 17:29

That's standard practice for schools - blame the victim, as tackling the actual bully is too difficult for them.

If all the Head can suggest is breakfast club then I suggest it shows just how seriously that school takes assualts that happen in their school. It is assault.

Would definitely write to Head and contact Police and LA, as I suggested earlier.

And I would also get my child out of that awfule school immeditaley. For that you may need the help of the LA - so that's why you need to ensure the LA is aware of what happened.

PolterGoose · 25/09/2013 18:02

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YourHandInMyHand · 25/09/2013 18:05

How old was the other child?

Did this happen in school or out?

My DS has autism too and was being taunted in and out of school by other kids from his primary. The local PCSO "had a word".

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 18:07

Thank you polter I appreciate your input I think another aspect was the fact the parent spoke to my dd which isn't acceptable she shouldn't be bought into it

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 18:08

The other child is eleven I have been in tears over the situation

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PolterGoose · 25/09/2013 18:08

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WetAugust · 25/09/2013 18:10

What makes matters worse is that the bullying child was a few years older than your DS.

vjg13 · 25/09/2013 18:42

It was totally inappropriate for the Mother to speak to your daughter about it in the playground and the school should address this also with the parent in question. A parent berated some kids in the playground at my younger daughter's school and the school told her in no uncertain terms that it must not happen again.

Hope your son is ok and the school are able and willing to prevent this happening again.

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autumnsmum · 25/09/2013 19:14

Thank you all of you this is a horrible situation compounded by the fact we have just settled dd2 in her ss and I thought all education stress was over for a while

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YourHandInMyHand · 25/09/2013 20:26

At 11 you can report it to the police and I would be doing so. It sends a clear message to the school, the child, the child's parents, etc that you are viewing it as something very serious and unacceptable. If the child who hurt your DS does also have additional needs it will hopefully mean he is given more support/supervision.

The school don't sound very supportive and that's rather worrying.

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