This might be useful if your DS with AS is 'fine' at school but not at home & the school don't believe you

[ScramblyEgg]

I've been searching for something to convince DS's school that I'm not making it up about how different he is at home from what they see at school and have found this on the NAS website.

The relevant bit is on the 3rd page, under 'He behaves ok at school but at home he is a nightmare' - hope someone else might find it useful.

thank you ScramblyEgg. I have a meeting with ds's teacher tomorrow morning about this exact issue!

Good luck, hope the meeting goes well.

Thank you ScramblyEgg that is just what I needed.

Thankyou Scrambly egg just what I needed

Thank you. I was beginning to think it is us as parents causing the problem as school say he's quiet and well behaved.

It's a nightmare, isn't it? I'm sure DS's teacher thinks I'm completely neurotic.

Mine too. I think they think I've got Münchhausens.

Thank you sooo much, my DS got dyspraxia + more dx to come and expecting AS or ASD. Everyone but his school see it. At TAC meeting last year school behaviour manager painted my DS little angel and said she has never seen him misbehave. By next TAC I was able to point out 12 instances where either herself or another teacher had stopped him being either verbally or physically abusive to me the minute he sees me at home time. He doesn't even wait until we get home, it almost explodes out of him as he leaves the door!

What school fail to understand is he is so terrified of getting into trouble there he behaves very well, but at great cost to him cos his stress just builds up inside him.

The other day ds said to me after school 'I behaved happy today'.