behaviour issues & dyslexia

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Our 9yr old is dyslexic and talented, which I understand makes things very difficult when he can't get the thoughts out and others may think he's less than capable. However I am having real problems trying to control his behaviour and it seems mainly directed at me. He is angry when asked to anything and too big for me to put in time out etc. I've read a mountain of books and I support & encourage him. I think though I need some outside help as I am just not getting anywhere and soon enough he'll be a teenager and I don't want him to be an angry person, it makes me so upset to see how worked up he gets. Its not good for him.

Any suggestions on where to go or who to talk to?

thx

No advice but I wanted to convey my sympathies. I'm severely dyslexic and have a very high IQ. The years I spent in primary and secondary school where exceptionally difficult as a result.

I wish you and your DS the best of luck.

Your local council may have an "Anger in families" course which was very helpful to us, ours was about six week long. It disappeared virtually over night when I used my strategies correctly.

DS1 Very high IQ and moderately dyslexic. I find he uses his IQ to manipulate most people. Anger is like an iceberg you need to be trained to find out where the problem is coming from to tackle it.

Good luck with it.

Another one here with a bright dyslexic DS. LOL at Kafkesque's comment "he uses his IQ to manipulate most people". Oh yes!! It concerns me that my DS could become a master conman in the future.

You might get some good advice from this dyslexia forum:

www.beingdyslexic.co.uk/forums/index.php?act=idx

There was a thread a while ago about how secondary school has been much better for these kind of kids. I think it's good to find something that they can be good at. For us it has been acting. He is now a school councilor and is in the school G&T Group despite non-G&T school achievement Levels. Junior school had no idea. Secondary gives them the chance to excel at something else: sport, woodwork, ICT, acting, student council speeches, debate, etc.

Using a laptop or scribe for written work can also help (frowned upon at junior but the norm at secondary).

Good luck!

Was very comfating to find this thread, my 7 yo son is serverly dyslexic and his behaviour is uncontrollable at times, as he gets bigger it gets more of a worry. Alot of his anger is directed at his freinds. We went bowling with school freinds last night and I was so embarrassed. One of the mums gave him such a filthy look I could have cried. I really need an outlet for his anger and that council run course suggested by kefkesque is on my to do list to book, fingers crossed !!