I've made such a mess of all of this.
ds1 (8) always been a difficult child I have been on this board so many times asking for support.
This year it reached crisis point - he was having panic attacks, physically and verbally attacking his little brother constantly, saying he wished he was dead, threatened to get a knife and stab me if I didn't do what he said.
Met with school, they put support in place for drop off and assemblies - times of stress, and acknowledged he had a personality clash with his teacher.
Saw CAHMS who suggested Aspergers, then sent a questionnaire out, to which 90% of the answers are 'no' so it doesn't look like that is the right dx, although other parents of children with Aspergers have said they thought he had it too.
School holidays came, 2 weeks in I dropped some of his asthma meds and he became a completely different child. Relaxed, happy, kind cooperative.
Saw dr, changed meds 2 weeks ago. Back at school three weeks, back to being anxious, unkind, attacking brother, last night said he want to be dead, this morning ran away because we couldn't find his coat.
I broke down at school today because of the stress.
They are having a meeting with all adults involved with him at school, and I am going back in later to discuss a plan.
How can one child have 2 distinct personalities. Why is he switching between the two? I would describe him as slipping into a depression - anxious, angry, unhappy, very very low self esteem which he takes out on his brother.
He has had such a bad run of teachers at that school, which was put in Special Measures. He was in classes that were physically unsafe for him. He was ignored when he couldn't do the work. The school on the whole is so much better, there is just one teacher left that everyone wants to avoid....ds's teacher.
Don't even know why I am posting. Mourning for the beautiful little boy I had this summer, and scared of the angry spite-filled wasp that will be returned to me at the end of the day, and sad for ds1 who is locked into this.