Son refusing to go to certain lessons (secondary)

[district12]

Hi, ds 12 , severe dyspraxia, sdp, being assessed for asd , refusing to go to some lessons in school. It is the lessons that he finds really hard and unfortunately seems to have alot of them this year.
He has been allowed to skip it today and spend that time with senco , but obviously cannot do this every time.
Not sure what the answer is , but it is lessons that he will not take further past year 9 and he isn't really able to do what the rest of the class does anyway.
Any advice anyone?
I know he has to learn to put up with things he finds difficult , however he is getting so anxious about this.

Is it because of the subject or is it the environment which is adding to his dislike of the subjects? Are these lessons he is refusing to go into in the same classroom? My Ds is a lot younger than yours so not sure what strategies they could use for his age...would small group work, in another room be beneficial for this?...again my Ds is younger so tell me to shut up if I suggest anything ridiculous!

It's the lessons ( art /DT) , but also the noise levels. Small work group was tried last week and worked great , but then he got really upset again today.
I know he just does not want to do these lessons, but also know that he doesn't have that choice.
He has a writing age of 6 , and his art skills are around the same if not worse, so I can see why he doesn't enjoy these lessons .
If only he could pick and choose his subjects .

Is this the right school, my concern would be if he is allowed to drop these lessons would more lessons in the future be added to this list of lessons he cannot do. Is the senco pro active or more problem avoidance? I would advise against removal of subjects but would want steps from the school to aid re introduction. My DS did these subjects with the aid of computers and graphics which is the school making reasonable adjustments.

He's not going to be allowed to drop these lessons.It's just for today.
He has got his own laptop for all other lessons and so is completely ok in these, he doesn't however have one for art/dt, maybe that can be arranged.
He just finds all aspects of these lessons so difficult physically, that it has now resulted in him refusing to go in on those days ( although I do get him in with help of senco ,who is brilliant with him).
I'm not sure how to make it easier for him and his way of coping in those lessons was to get up and wander around constantly which obviously gets him into trouble and is not fair on others.

Dt and art are often quite unstructured in terms of how dc's perceive them, and in some schools the noise levels are through the roof.

Why should he just put up with what he finds difficult? Shouldn't someone be helping him to achieve rather than put up with not achieving? (or AIBU?)

Wouldn't a good school be ensuring that he got to do elements of them that were accesible to him, and encouraged his creativity, rather than expecting he should either silently under perform or quit?

If that was my Dd3 and she was allowed to miss the lesson once she would be arguing the toss that if it is ok to miss it this week why does she need to go next week!

I can imagine having very similar issues district so am watching with interest. I really hope this can be sorted out

Good luck

He has had a chat with teacher and senco today and is being given a helper in those lessons. I think he is finding the new start to his year really hard and having a lot of art lessons tipped him over the edge today.

Thanks for all the advice

Glad they have offered some extra support district and hope he starts to settle soon.

The beginning of the year has been difficult for Dd3 too and she has only moved year groups, I cant imagine what this time next year will be like.

Funnily enough the transition to year 7 went really well, and he had a good year . This year has not gone well so far though, a lot of new teachers , and not with the few friends he has , has not gone down well with him.