school help

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hi, my 13 yr ds is being dx with possible autism, it was his school that noticed over a year ago & he had a ados assesment nearly 3 wks ago that iv had no results back from yet, last thursday in school he assaulted a teacher by pushing her, he was sent home & was in isolation all day friday, i had a meeting at the school today & myself & ds was shown ctv footage of the incident which clearly shows what he did! however he still says it was't him even though it was! he just wont accept he was wrong & sat with his head on the table! cahms phoned during the school holidays & said that they will be liasing with the school to put preventable measures in place, the school had not even heard from them! but they said they will contact them, really worried about possible permanment exclusion, hes not a confident child & has a communication problems, any advice is really valued

I'd ring CAMHS and chivvy them up. It doesn't hurt to have school and you both asking for an appointment.

The person who actually should be able to advise you and school on measures that would help your son in school is the Educational Psychologist - not CAMHS. School should be asking the Ed Pysch to see your son - again you can contact the Ed Pysch to make an appointment with them - there's usually a waiting list so a parental approach may get you taken more seriously.

Hasten the results of ADOS too. They've had long enough.

Basically you can either make a pest of yourself (not in our nature I know) which gets you taken seriously or you can stand meekly in the queue. That's how this awful system works.

If your DS does have autism you may find that the he is finding the transition to secondary school very difficult and may need some additional support during the day or even just a quiet place for him to go to if he feels anxious or overwhelmed by the bustle and noise of school.

You and the school could probably identify some measure you could take now that are not dependant on any particular dx but just on his needs as you and school both know him well.

Best wishes

thank you both, your comments are very positive, you give me hope. much appreciated x