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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

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ditavonteesed · 16/09/2013 09:38

I have done this before, about a year ago, but I never followed anything up as dd was getting a lot of extra help at school and seemed to cope really well and improve a lot.

I have a meeting with the senco at school this afterrnon and for myself I need to think what I need to tell her.
If I list things about my dd will you tell me if anything particularly stands out? I know you guys have a lot of experience and if nothing stands out as unusual for her age I would appreciate if someone would tell me that as well.
DD is 10 in 2 weeks, she is a lovely kind gentle girl who shows empathy but in a very exagerated way, so she will put others before herself nearly all the time, she will gift her things to friends and worry a lot about what others are feeling.
She is prone to violent tantrums which appear from nowhere and can take hours to calm down from, I am not talking about strops, she smashes anything in site up, kicks, hits thorws things and says anything which comes to mind that will hurt me.
Her handwriting is not very good, although very much improved after she completed theojobbywosits thing at school.
She took about 3 years to learn to ride a bike although is now competant on it.
She has been having swimming lessons since age 5 and is only in stage 2 although again competant at this level.
She is very emotional and becomes easily hurt and upset if someone says anything as a joke to her.
She makes friends easily and keeps friends for many years.
She has problems ordering things, such as she still often asks me what season is next, she can not tell the time on a clock face, she can tie shoe laces.
She said to me that sometimes when someone says no she feels so angry inside and she thinks she has an emotional problem.
She moves constantly, can not be still and doesnt really like physical contact, we did a theraplay course and she was visibly uncomfortable with me massaging her hands, although she would say she liked it she was tensed up and pulling away, she doesnt really cuddle although will sit next to you snuggled up iyswim.
she struggled to use a knife and fork.
she is confident and has been camping and on residentials with school and brownies and enjoyed these.
She is very tidy and her room is usually spotless.
She is very consientious at school and works very hard, and spends a lot of time working on school work at home.
She finds maths impossible (who doesnt)
She is never hungry and has to be reminded constantly to eat.
She needs 12 hours sleep a night and if she doesnt get it really struggles.
that is all I can think of for now although I am sure there will be more. I would really appreciate any imput.

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PolterGoose · 16/09/2013 14:42

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KOKOagainandagain · 16/09/2013 15:00

What Polter said is good advice but with regard to the meeting this pm with the Senco, I would focus on issues with school/learning and related behaviour. You need a focused rather than scatter-gun approach which means not talking to Senco about general concerns you need to follow up with GP/paed/OT etc.

What support is she getting at school and do you think this is enough?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 16/09/2013 15:04

What PolterGoose wrote. GP needs to refer your DD to a developmental paediatrician as well as occupational therapist.

How is DD at school - my guess is very quiet, self contained and compliant. Many children with subtlely presented additional needs can and do go unnoticed in a class of 30 or so others.

I would seek help now because secondary school can be bloody tough going after Juniors particularly if their needs be it educational or social/communication or a combination of the two at school are simply not being met.

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ditavonteesed · 16/09/2013 18:55

thanks for the answers, meeting went well, they are going to asses her for dyslexia in school which they are now able to do but couldnt before and also assess her over the next couple of weeks and then write me a letter for when I go to the doctor supporting a referal to somewhere that they can asses properly, they have said she ticks a lot of boxes for a lot of things but not all the boxes for anything iyswim and the main things they said they would like her assesed for are aspergers, autism, add, adhd, and dyslexia and dyspraxia which they already thought.

The learning mentor is going to start some self esteem work with her this week one to one and build up to working with her friendship group on stuff and do some emotional stuff. They are going to talk to last years teacher and find out what she did as it obviously worked.

We discussed how we as a family handled the tantrums and they seemed happy with everything we have in place.

I felt very supported and like they took my concerns very seriously.

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