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What do you think?!?!?!

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eidsvold · 14/02/2004 14:04

There is an advert/request for participants in a Bella magazine article about the following....

"The hardest decision of my life
Couples? decisions based on the outcome of health screening tests on their unborn babies"

Do you think I should put my hand up and share our story???

I think I should possibly do this as I wonder how many positive stories will be included.... last one I read like that was the woman in the Guardian who terminated her baby who was diagnosed with a heart condition and Down's syndrome ( remember?!?!?!)

So learned friends - whaddya reckon( imagine aussie accent here )

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coppertop · 14/02/2004 14:07

Yes! Yes! Yes!

A good positive story showing that it needn't be the end of the world could help so many people. Newspapers tend to go for the more 'sensational' stories and so people rarely get to hear about the other side.

Besides, I'm a nosey so-and-so and I WANT TO READ IT TOO!!

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eidsvold · 14/02/2004 14:22

coppertop - if you have acrobat reader you can download our story from

here

if you manage to download the annual review - the first story - a year in the life of is our dd.

there are no pics of dh and I - we did not make the grade but lots of a cheeky dd.

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twiglett · 14/02/2004 14:56

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eidsvold · 14/02/2004 15:00

okay you two - I have sent of a very brief email saying I would like to be involved - let you know what happens.

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Davros · 14/02/2004 16:19

Oh yes Eidsvold, definitely

hmb · 14/02/2004 16:28

Please go for it. I've already used you as example of a positive choice with my sixth form human biology group. You story will mean so much to people. Not only thouse who are making the choice of what to do, but also those who's babies came with no prior 'warning' IYSWIM.

maryz · 14/02/2004 18:13

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coppertop · 14/02/2004 19:02

No acrobat on here but dh has got it on his computer. I should be able to get a look tomorrow though - if I can tear dh away!

I hope they choose you. It would be so nice to see a positive story. If they say no then we'll all have to e-mail Bella and complain.

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eidsvold · 14/02/2004 19:02

oh Mary - I agree totally - my thought was that their intention is - ' the hardest decision I had to make was to have a termination as my child would have ......( insert condition).' In fact that is what I implied in my first very short email .... will definitely keep you posted.

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eidsvold · 16/02/2004 08:09

well I got an email back from the writer saying she would run my story past her editors and then get back to me...... stay tuned for the next interesting instalment

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fio2 · 16/02/2004 08:16

you go for it eidsvold and I look forward to reading your positive thoughts againSmile

coppertop · 16/02/2004 10:09

Tried downloading the review from the DSA site yesterday but it kept timing-out for some reason. Probably our slow computer. I'll have to wait for Bella to make the right decision and choose your story.

dinosaur · 16/02/2004 16:48

wow eidsvold - I read the annual review this morning - and I wondered if it could possibly be a mumsnetter's story!

Eulalia · 16/02/2004 18:24

Oh yes definately eidsvold... trying to download the review at the moment but it is taking ages.

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eidsvold · 16/02/2004 19:18

coppertop - there is another place you can check us out if you are curious....

here

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eidsvold · 24/02/2004 07:50

got a reply from the journalist..... as follows....

Hi Lisa,

Bella magazine realised that they have recently run a similar article to the one they were discussing with me, so for the timebeing, unfortunately, I can't work on this for them. However, your story is really interesting so I am going to speak to a couple of other magazines to see if they're interested in running it.

not sure whether to let her go ahead and contact other magazines or just let it go... again oh wise ones - what do you think?!?!?

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coppertop · 24/02/2004 08:09

She's absolutely gorgeous. I love her name too. Thanks so much for that link.

I think if you are still interested in being featured then let them go ahead with asking around for you. However, if you're having second thoughts about it all then just say no. We won't hold it against you.

Thomcat · 24/02/2004 09:11

Edisvold - go for it, like I have said many times before the more positive stories out there the better. In fact please pass her on my details too. I think it's important to let people know that having a child with DS isn't the end of anyones world, far from it. Email me through mumsnet, although I think you have my email address already, and we'll hit them together if you like? Anyone else? If you'd rather just go for it not a problem, just offering my support and story for the same reasons, it's all for the same good cause.

JanH · 24/02/2004 09:39

TC is right, eidsvold, you and your daughters are an inspiration to all of us and you should definitely be available to a wider audience!

TC, there is a story about your family on a site similar to eidsvold's, isn't there - could you please do another link to it, because I have lost it? TIA!

kiwisbird · 24/02/2004 09:49

Can only be better shared Eidsvold, sounds inspirational
xx

Thomcat · 24/02/2004 11:29

Janh - not sure where that story is now, will try and find it and do a link. Watch out for Eve magazine next month as well! As you can see I'm all for letting people know, esp now with screening available to all and many women feeling worried, that there is really nothing to be scared about etc.

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eidsvold · 24/02/2004 12:16

Jan/TC my second link (16 Feb) leads to that and it is the one entitled 'story so far? I think...

okay wil discuss with dh and then go ahead with it - perhaps I can leave him out of it... in a way - he like sto keep his personal business private iykwim.

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dottee · 24/02/2004 12:41

Eidsvold - just looked at the link. What a pretty little girl you have (and she has a lovely name)! Good luck in what you decide.

Thomcat · 24/02/2004 13:47

Edisvold, if you / your DH decide not to go ahead then I for one would appreciate the details of the journalists myself. They may not be interested but I'd like to offer them another positve story if I can. I left my DP out of the interview but they did want him in the photos, he could have opted out if he wanted. Please though if there is an opportunity for a positive story somewhere and you decide you you can't go ahead with it, please do let me know. I'm on a mission!

oliveoil · 24/02/2004 13:56

What a gorgeous little pudding your dd is eidsvold.

I also think the more possitive stories the better, some people think I am strange for not having tests in my pregnancies but I don't see the point if it's not going to change anything.

More pics please! (can you tell I am feeling v broody)