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BeeMom · 08/09/2013 02:20

So, a new toy store opened in town today - and the DCs and I happened to go in (didn't know it was opening, it was a chance - DS saw it as we crossed the street, and since we had nothing better to do, I figured it would not hurt to check it out).

Well, we spent over an hour in the shop, and as it was the first day, the manager, assistant manager and the area manager were all there...

While DS (15) was wandering around with DD (7), I struck up a conversation with who I didn't realise at the time the District Manager and she asked me if the DCs were mine. Figuring that a complaint was forthcoming, I said that yes, they were mine, and VERY excited about this new shop in town.

Well, the DM asked me if my DS might be interested in a job Shock as she had been watching him and she thought he would be an excellent fit for the "team" there...

I guess, while walking around with Bee (in her wheelchair and too weak today to push herself), DS had been obsessively organizing the stock in the shop. He had fixed a broken Playmobil bus on display, then arranged all the little plastic figures and lined up the boxes on shelves into neat rows.

She had tried to engage him in conversation, and said he responded with enough information about one of the crazy expensive Lego sets that he had been looking at that she would have bought it herself. He was excited about it, because he is taking a course in robotics at school, and they are using a similar (but older) set to build their models.

The DM has suggested that DS bring in a CV on Monday after school, and she looks forward to talking with him. Apparently, she has a LO with ASD, and saw it in DS immediately - but also understands that, while they may struggle with interviewing, in a place like a toy shop. highly verbal young people with ASD can really find their niche...

DS told me that if he is hired, he is REALLY excited that he will have enough money to buy the bus he fixed, because it is an "awesome" toy and he knows Bee will really love playing with it (I don't know about in the UK, but in Canada, Playmobil toys are considered "premium", and command a price that matches - the bus the DCs were playing with was almost $40).

It really warmed my heart that this manager was willing to look beyond DS's struggles with conversation and face to face communication and see that he has a very real ability to contribute. It excites me that DS has a chance to prove that he has very real and very valuable skills, even if he can't idly prattle on about football scores or the weather.

And... it makes me feel old - how did I get old enough to have a DS who is old enough to have a job?

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Summerhasloaded · 08/09/2013 06:00

what a lovely story. You have an amazing ds - talented and showing such affection for his sister Smile

streakybacon · 08/09/2013 07:49

That's fantastic - what a great story. I hope his interview goes well and he gets the job Smile.

youarewinning · 08/09/2013 08:24

Wow - having woken up feeling crap this thread has warmed my heart.

Go Beeboy. Grin

Levantine · 08/09/2013 08:34

Wow! that has made me come over all emotional! What a lovely story xxx

TheAccidentalExhibitionist · 08/09/2013 08:46

thank you for relating that, how wonderful

PolterGoose · 08/09/2013 08:56

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RinkyDinkyDoo · 08/09/2013 08:59

That's great! Thanks for sharing. Hope all goes well.x

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 08/09/2013 09:01

That is more than mildly positive, it's amazing :)

Ineedmorepatience · 08/09/2013 09:01

Wow! What a great post beemom its great that the manager wants to give your Ds a job Grin

Something similar happened to us in the holiday in a shop in a very popular holiday town Dd3 was tidying up the letters that people buy to make their childs name on bedroom doors and the owner of the shop said she could put all the new letters away for him if she wanted to, she did and thoroughly enjoyed it.

To thank her he said she could choose the letter which starts her name. She was so thrilled, she loved putting all the letters straight and then got rewarded for it Smile

There really are some good people out there and it is great to come across one every now and then. Smile

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 08/09/2013 10:31

that's fabulous news beemom! My dd1 started her first full time job this week and I'm definitely feeling rather ancient old!

lougle · 08/09/2013 12:50

Thank you, thank you - that's wonderful Smile

Tambaboy · 08/09/2013 13:42

Wow, that is great and I have to admit it made me feel a bit teary.
I hope it all goes well.

BeeMom · 08/09/2013 13:52

I woke this morning to DS already up and working on the computer looking up how to write a CV... he is so excited.

I had always worried that somewhere retail, where "engaging" the customers is paramount, would dismiss him in 2 seconds flat. While we were walking away, he said to me "If there is any place where my quirks fit, it is a place like this".

He is such a bright and capable young man, having his value recognised without someone fighting on his behalf gives me a glimmer of hope that he will, indeed, be "OK"

As for his love for his sister... it moves me to tears on a regular basis. We had been out because there was a show at the local shopping centre that he knew she would like, so he asked me if we could take her. When we got there, he managed to talk Shock his way into getting Bee in to meet her favourite character. It doesn't surprise me at all that he would like to use his earnings to buy something for her... that is his nature.

Maybe I haven't totally screwed up as a mum, after all...

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ohtowinthelottery · 08/09/2013 14:47

What a lovely story BeeMom. I hope your DS succeeds in getting the job.

My DS has done 3 months voluntary work (last year) at the local library for his Duke of Edinburgh award - and they totally loved him They still ask after him now - even remembered he was waiting for GCSE results in the summer and asked how he got on.

He has spent the summer doing some gardening work for someone he knows and they have just offered him some more work for 1/2 term in Oct.

It is not easy for our DC with ASD to get employment and fantastic when someone is prepared to give them a chance. Especially as they can then put it on their CV and will mean that prospective employers might be more willing to give them a chance as they are clearly employable.

Borntobeamum · 08/09/2013 16:05

Oh how exciting too!
I'm sure your son will thrive with a bit of responsibility and what a lovely place to work x x

MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 08/09/2013 18:56

That is brilliant! I really hope he gets a job there, and how lovely that the staff could see his potential!

LegoAcupuncture · 08/09/2013 19:01

How lovely, well done to your DS, he sounds like a very lovely young man.

Fingers crossed he gets the job and he enjoys it.

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