How can I support my friend?

[alicetrefusis]

Hello

I've just learned that the DS of an old friend of mine has been diagnosed with autism. He is 5, will be going to a special needs school in September and they live at the other side of the country. It sounds like her marriage is on the rocks.

I desperately want to help her but not sure how.

Wow - you really are a great friend, I wish some of my friends would want to know more.

My main suggestion would be to read as much as you can about the condition, either by Googling it or the many books out there. Having someone truly understand what you are going through, is such a relief - more than any hands-on help - particularly given the distance.

I'm not surprised her relationship is suffering - the pressure can be insurmountable and I experience it myself, having 2 boys who also have ASD.

The only really proactive thing we can do, regarding autism, is to help spread awareness and dispel the myths, of which there are many, on the stereotypical image people have of it.

Good luck and your friend is very lucky to have you.

I agree with polter.

I have had more support on here than anywhere else.

Polter and Ineed - That was the first thing I did! :)

I've also resolved never again to be judgey about tantrumming/ apparently 'badly behaved' children. I was so struck by the comment in the David Mitchell webchat where he said if a child wanders over and pinches a chip from your plate just smile and make a joke of it, and what a relief this can be for the parents.

I take my hat off to you all, I really do. You are heroes!