feeling fed up. anyone elses dcs constantly breaking things?

[armani]

we live in a privately rented house and the landlord is useless at repairs and gets really nasty if asked to repair things that break. last winter we had re occuring damp in the dcs room and I asked landlord to sort it out. he basically blamed me for not opening the windows enough abd threatened eviction if I didnt get it sorted
Anyway ive dealt with that but now dd has managed to snap the handle off the inside of the front door. She is obsessed with fiddling with it and when she has a meltdown she tends to hang from it im so scared to inform the landlord im going to have to sort it myself. Along with this she has somehow managed to crack the sink in the bathroom . again I will sort it but im just so upset about dd breaking everything. SHe has also broken her bedside table, cracked the ipad, snapped the flush off the toilet.

sorry this post is just to vent really

I feel for you. You are not alone, my DS is same. We are now in a council flat after 5years in private rent. In private rent DS wrecked many things including all of the cream ( not my choice!) carpets, 2 televisions, a laptop, ruined paintwork in every room etc.. We have been here since late dec, he has pulled a door off hinge (council coming out to inspect weds ) he has broken 2 iPads- last one he bit in temper and shattered screen, a Nintendo DS and god knows what else. I. Our private rent the family fund gave me a grant to replace the worst of the carpet, could that be an option with sink or similar? Tonight he smashed his lego police station which I painstakingly built for him after he jumbled all the pieces together on Sunday.it took me hours to build. He is now livid that I'm not rebuilding it for a while. Take care.

glad to hear that im not alone, although sorry to hear you are experiencing similar.
my dd has also scribbled on walls and written her name over doors etc.
I feel like I am failing her, as no matter how many times I tell her not to draw on things she just laughs and finds it funny
she also has no remorse for things that she has broken/ done, its as if she really doesnt care

what is the family fund? we recieve dla for dd so am going to be using next months to replace sink, ive had to use this months for new shoes as she lost one of her piedro boots unbelievably

Ah she sounds like my son's long, lost twin! He writes on the doors. Managed to get the last lot off and he's done it again, need to get the bleach out before the flat inspection next weds! He once smuggled a pot of purple paint in his room and covered his bed, fabric headboard and the carpet in it. It took forever to clean up, have to admit that was better than when he used to smear the contents of his nappy everywhere, that was soul destroying after a long day! DS is exactly the same, or I will ask him to apologise but then he'll do the same thing the next day.
If you receive certain benefits such as income support, any form of tax credit or housing benefit as well as DLA you should be able to receive yearly grants off the family fund for various things. We used a grant for a short break to Butlins this year. Give them a google if you think you may be able to receive an award. They are lovely.
I know the feeling, on paper it looks like I have a good income, but I'm always skint as so much needs replacing or buying for DS due to his needs.

He is 6 (2 weeks ago) and has ASD, ADHD and dyspraxia. How old is your daughter? Does she have a diagnosis? Just checked in DS he is finally asleep and looking angelic. Wish he acted as angelic as he looks!

dd is 7 and we are currently going through the assessment phase although she has a dx of dyspraxia, global learning difficulties and phonological disorder. she also has increased tone in her calf muscles and delayed motor skills plus a bone disorder, so there is alot going on atm.
thanks for the info about family fund I will have a Google.
its the little things that keep me going at the moment, seeing how peaceful she is when asleep is beautiful
I also have to hide anything like paint or make up, creams etc. dd loves emptying bottles of shampoo everywhere and spreading foundation or nail varnish everywhere.

Ah I spend a fortune on shampoo, shower gels etc as DS squirts them out. Have started buying bars of soap as it was costing me a fortune in hand wash. Given up wearing make up too as it gets trashed. I should invest in a lockable box I guess.

Dd sounds like she has a lot going on. We ate (so far) having a better day today and off to a local special needs centre later for a family session and tomorrow he has repute for a day- I can't wait as as much as I love him I really need a break. It's one of three days during the 6 week break. I'm a lone parent so it's quite welcome.

Hope the family fund can help. When they have their good moments nd when they're asleep it really helps.

We are always replacing broken stuff, too.

Would your landlord be amenable to you repairing things yourself? Things lie door handles and toilet flushes are fairly straightforward.