Woohoo ds1 seems to understand choice

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Just noticed last night that when we say "ds1 choose" he has actually started to consistently. He has sussed out that he can choose a diffeent video at bedtime each night (before one would kind of accidentally happen and then it would be that one for months). We were in school the day before 1/2 term started and we asked him to choose whether to come home with us or on the school bus (he chose us :) )

Understanding choice is quite a big one actually isn't it? I can see it will be very useful.

Great! :)

Actually I find my ds sometimes gets a bit overwhelmed with choice. Also if you ask him what cereal he wants he will say "both" and then insist on them both being put in front of him in separate bowls. Not a good idea when we are always rushing for school in the morning.

A lot of the time I don't give him the choice and just give him things, not ideal I know but anything to make life easier. However its great when we can do it and yes indeed it shows an understanding of other possibilities.

That's great. If possible I think its a good idea to ask do you want X or Y and hold them up, wide apart (couldn't do this with the school bus or you and dh!). I do this with DD too... not which shoes do you want to wear but do you want to wear trainers (in left hand) or sandals (in right hand)..... obvious I know

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For the school bus or us it was PECS cards Davros- so kind of possible. :o

That's great news! :):):)

Great news. Brilliant, wonderful in fact.

It is a big one yes.

I ask Lottie, 'do you want water or milk' and she just says 'okay'.
Repeat, 'Lottie, water OR milk, which do you want?' 'Please, thank you mummy'. And so on.

So I bring in water and she says 'milk' ! LOL!

Really pleased for you. So nice to see big steps like this.

DS2 doesn't say a word if I give him a choice, but if I hold up two things the one he pushes away is the one he wants! I think he means 'Just get it for me will you!'

Excellent, I can see how that will make a big difference .

We sometimes have the opposite problem with Ds2 that he thinks you are getting him to choose when you are offering two things. So he will never let me give him a drink at the beginning of breakfast time because he thinks that it might be instead of his breakfast which he wants more .

This is a very good example of just how much visual strategies, inc PECs, really help some children. DS can use a functional "yes" with a nod if I ask him if he wants something and he can sign for things but I still often really need to use pictures.

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Can't choose between these two emoticons. That's great, hon.

Thanks :)

He has a functional yes Davros???? wow - that's brilliant, how did you teach that (offering reinforcers then physically prompting/reinforcing a nod or something?) I'm really impressed with that. Did you dance from the roof tops, I would have (a functional yes and a functional no makes life sooooooo much easier!)

I'd like to know too! DS2 occasionally says 'no' but only when strongly provoked. Have had no luck with 'yes' at all, despite modelling word and head nodding on every conceivable occasion. He used to say 'Yeah' very quietly when I said
'Mummy sing ---(name of song)?' but has stopped even this now.

Forgot to say last time to your DS Jimjams!