Bloody hell what next....

[eidsvold]

Porr MIL since we left for Aus - her mother has become very ill and since passed away. At the same time her dm was dying - husband is found to need triple bypass urgently ( done last Christmas) now this week - the cardiologist couldn't understand why he was still having chest pains - learnt that he has cancer in his lungs and liver. FIL is waiting for oncologist appt next week and we will know more.... but goodness me - what next.

So looks like we are heading to the UK sooner than we thought.

I know this is not sn - but I tend to post here the most...

sorry that isn't very good. do hope he is ok.
Where do they live?(nosy emotion)

Poor MIL. :( How is your dh coping with it all?

we just got the call this morning so he has headed off to work - but said after eating his breakfast that he really didn't feel like it and he probably shouldn't have eaten it.... He tends to be the quiet one you know ct - the strong silent type deals with it in his own way - more worried about his mum and his sister.

They are in kent.

We are just waiting to hear the prognosis next week to decide when to go.

The waiting and not knowing must be awful for all of you. :(

i think that is the hardest - I am just looking for flights for dh to go - hard for dh too - it is this that makes you feel the distance.

thanks for all your thoughts....

spoke with pil just before we went away and it appears fil will have to have a brain scan as well - think that was yesterday ( your time) so just waiting til later today to be able to call and find out what happens next.

eidsvold Feel for your dh, this is the worst bit about living so far from family.

:( I hope you and dh's family get some answers soon. xx

we'll get there - we are just worried about his mum more than anything. MIL has said she wanted dh to be there after his dad goes - is a given to us - but we think he should go soon and have some time with his dad before he goes depending on the prognosis.... we would love to take the girls too - especially dd1 - she was a commando crawling non speaker when we left - two years later - grandad would not recognise the monkey!! But unfortunately the money isn't there to take us all over twice in a year or so.

soory to hear this eidsvold. It makes it so much harder being so far away? At which hospital will they see the oncologist? Whereabouts in Kent. Wishing you and all the famils the strength you're going to need. My mil was diagnosed with cancer end of Jan and she's responded brilliantly to the treatment. She's at Guy's

I am so sorry to hear this Edisvold :(

FIl still waiting to see oncology consultant. Seems to go in for a test - kept in over night or for a couple of days and then sent home. Liver cancer is usually always fatal - the only variance is the amount of time he has....

Dh is heading over in the next couple of weeks looks like fil won't ever meet dd2 and will miss seeing dd1 - we just can't afford for us all to go even when it comes to the funeral - especially as dh will have to go back for the funeral and to be with his mum in the time after that.

thanks so much for your thoughts.

well dh is off to your parts monday week for a week - hopefully we will have a better picture.

apparently the palliative (sp?) care nurse said she could not give pil a time frame but suggested that dh come soon.