Dd1 made me cry today

[eidsvold]

Both sad and happy tears.... she spent all day at kindy today - usually only 1/2 a day. They were having a show on first thing so she attends those. Well as the children arrived, they played outside - she seem quite happy to do her own thing.... play away. Saw one little girl who seemed to be dd1's 'friend' be so horrible to her and another little girl - wanted to go and do something but thought I would wait to see what dd1 does - she just left said girl alone and went off and played elsewhere.... made me sad - she seemed happy to play alone whilst others were madly playing chasey and playing together. At one stage it seemed like a group of girls were deliberately excluding her.... made me feel sad. Dd1 - probably not even aware of it - just happy to play in the sandpit etc.

Happy tears - show asked for audience participation and dd1 was chosed to be dressed as a fairy who helped superheroes overcome their fear of flying. SHe had wings and a fairy skirt nad want and was waving her wand at the superheroes to help them fly ( whilst also trying to turn on the woman's cassette player, play with the props - phones ( her favourite) and take pics with the instamatic camera!!) But she did such a fab job She made me very very proud.

She is such a darling.

"she just left said girl alone and went off and played elsewhere" - I thought what a mature way of dealing with nastiness.

Sounds like she enjoyed herself being a fairy.

DS1 does this as well eidsvold. Other "normally developing" kids are nasty to him quite a lot now (not that he really goes near them to be honest, he tends to keep out of their way)- especially it has to be said girls, they seem more switched on that he's different and often start to imitate his noises of something.

Anyway he does the same, just goes off and does whatever he wants to. Which is good, but also makes me sad for him that he doesn't even realise that they are being mean to him. Actually next time it happens I'm going to have a word with the brats because I'm getting fed up with it.

Jimjams - IMO you should have a word with the teachers too, that kind of behaviour shouldn't be acceptable to them either. I'd be livid if I thought children were making fun of my son (profoundly deaf), even if he couldn't hear them and be upset by it. In fact I know he doesn't pick up as well on social cues and carries on being friendly - sometimes his sheer persistence actually pays off and he ends up being friends with children who were more distant to start with. I know this is different to your situation, though, as he probably has better language.

oh not at school Christina- he's at a special school where all the children are either severely or profoundly disabled- this is just kids in the street, friends kids friends iyswim etc It's often girls, but usually when they are with other girls.

some kids can be realy little turds sometimes . Sorry that your ds1 is getting a tough time

You dd sounds ever more wonderful eidsvoid

she loved being the fairy and told her dad when he came home... that she was a fairy in the play - using her makaton signing. She just loved it.

wow eidsvold- she sounds excellent at signing.

He's not really getting a tough time MB, he's just big enough to notice that he has odd behaviour now. Of course all the people you want to notice (like grumpy elderly women) don't so just tut.

tutting is probably the one thing designed to turn me into red mist monster.. bloody hell - if you can't be nice - ping off.... no need to tut and carry on.

Don't you just want to smack that tutting mouth