I need help - urgent

[stuckonsmallrock]

I also posted this is SN chat - sorry for the duplicate I just need help & advice quickly - My DD1, 6 nearly 7, has just finished school & has had an epic meltdown. We are awaiting assessment in a week for HFA, she is showing all the signs. My concern is that during her meltdown she repeatedly told me she wanted to die, to kill herself, to walk in front of a car, because that is better than a mum, dad, sister that hate her & lie to her & trick her all the time. obs none of us do that... she is now quiet & I hope reading or sleeping but i dont dare go into check (been 3 mins now) in case i spark off another meltdown... WTF do i do now???

How horrid for you OP. I think I'd leave her a while longer and then go in under a guise of collecting glasses for the dishwasher or something? Or say "Just checking if you have any washing"

I truely hope she calms down and sleeps.

Thank you so much for your reply - she is now swapping stickers with DD2 as is nothing has happened, but I am still concerned about what she said. I have posted a duplicate thread deliberately to get as much traffic as poss when I was desperate but will now leave this one. I have the same in SN chat. x

Ok this is something I've not really told anyone but when Ds was 3 (5 no DX) he told me he wanted to die during a meltdown. It broke my heart.
He has since told us he is going to kill us, he wants to die or that he is dead. All of this over the past year at least. I have cone to learn that he doesn't mean it and that it is just a way of him showing his upset/frustration. Just like when he says he is going to punch us (or does indeed attack us).

It is truly awful to hear but I hope it is the same for your dad as is it for my ds and not meant in that way if you see what I mean. Hugs.

blue - your response brought me to tears - in a good way. I think you know what I have just gone through.. thank you so much for responding. the fact that you mention repeat episodes to be honest fills me with dread, but also the fact he hasnt actually done anything drastic makes me feel a lot better... sorry, that is probably totally garbled, I'm upset right now & have DD2 helping me type.. if you ever want to chat you know where i am

stuckon, is it to do with the change in routine from termtime to holidays, worrying about a change of class next term etc? I can't I'm afraid offer any suggestions, but you might actually find things calm down over the next few weeks when she doesn't have to deal with the daily transition to school and back again.

it is totally to do with the change in routine, she has just finished Y2 but an august baby so young for her year. I have seen the end of year meltdowns twice before, I was expecting that, this was on a completely different level which is why it caught me out

I'm glad my post made you feel a little better. The fact he hasn't done anything makes me feel better about it too. It still hurts to hear him say it but it bounces off me a little easier now knowing it's just words.

Same here if you want a chat I'm here too.

I am so sorry op,
I understand how you feel, I got a phone call from my dd school a couple of weeks ago saying she had been found with glass saying she wanted to die because no one liked her.
She is already having therapy via Cahms which I had to fight for otherwise I would have rang them.
Is your dd having any help from Cahms. How is she doing today?