Sports day annoyance

[goldenretriever]

Is it just me or is any event where a parent is asked to attend just an excuse for them to fuck off and leave you with your SN child.

I looked after my ds at sports day, after he had a meltdown/ refused to participate - I wish I had kept him off school.

Ditto TapselterrrioO. Foolishly, thought ds2 would cope if I attended sports day. Still managed a meltdown and then banned from school trip so I finally lost it and am keeping him off until the end of term. On a brighter note ds1 got the 'best loser' award at his sports day (different school) and did not have a meltdown even when the baton was not passed on in the relay race. Just goes to show how much happier he is out of mainstream as this would have been unimaginable a few months ago.

Ds had a fab time but thats because his 1:1 is from a private ABA provider who has primed and prepared him - if ever there was evidence of how ABA works well in mainstream it is DS happily joining in everything while all the other school employed TAs with no training cant get their children to do anything / are having a horrible time. The fact he doesn't care at all about winning also helps he is probably the only child who enjoys just taking part even if all he had to show for it was one good effort sticker. Same with class assemblies and school plays, he loves it - before we had ABA it was a nightmare.

Last year his ABA 1:1 stood in shock as his teacher grabbed his hand and ran a race with him, she was stood there thinking whats she doing she never even speaks to DS - then she turned round and saw I had arrived and the penny dropped....it was for my benefit!

Mainstream = pants
Mainstream with ABA = fab

DD's mainstream school invite all parents, was it only you that was in your case, OP?

This year I was really torn as ds really wanted to attend, I was worried we would have a repeat of last years sports day and Christmas play, which I cried for days over. He just couldn't cope at all.

I bought a cheap toy had the 4 main races in, sack race, egg & spoon race, bean bags race, 3 legged race, and we have been practicing for the last couple of months in the garden. His TA, who has an 19 year old ds who has ASD so really gets him, has also been preparing him on the field for weeks too. I do appreciate we are very lucky to have her work with ds.

There was just one moment when he caught sight of me (mum in school?) when I though we'd lost him, but all credit to him and his TA he joined in by himself and did 3 races (wouldn't do the 3 legged one though)... He came 2nd in every one of them and the look of sheer joy on his face will always see me through the tough times.

Think just pissed off, Ripping with pressures of appeal date coming up for the LA turning down his request for initiating SEN. All parents were invited, though this isn't always the case. For instance, they asked one of us to go to a farm visit last month., no other parents were there. Also, Xmas concert I was asked to sit with him on my lap next to the stage with all the other kids prancing around next to us. Frustrated with all of the presents being brought in for staff today. I got them bugger all, though I know it isn't all their fault.

for you, golden, i hear you

i've had a crap end of year too, but at the opposite end of the scale, they are dismissing DDs issues, saying they don't want to make her stand out

i always go to school events as DDs visual security blanket, i can't leave her at the mercy of people who think they know better yet

how old is DS?

He is 4 and starting school in September. Been made to feel like shit by someone supposed to be helping our appeal who asked why I waited so long to appeal as the appeal date is looming. It's because I was told I needed as much info as possible to support the claim. Groan! Feel like things are even harder with all the LA cuts. Thank you for flowers though!