Is this ok? I'm fuming

[armani]

I've req SA for dd, recieved a letter last week saying they will go ahead will the SA and to expect to hear from EP etc soon for appointments.

Went to pick dd up from school today and EP had been in formally assessing her for 3 hours! I've had no warning so couldn't explain it to dd or pre warn her. I've had no explanation of what they've actually assessed for, I've just been told EP can't discuss it until I recieve her report.

Since picking dd up from school she has been acting horrendously all night and is still not asleep :( she has been hitting, shouting, swearing, crying etc and is now refusing to go back to school tomorrow.

AIBU to be fuming about this? I feel as if I've lost all my rights as a parent.

I've no idea how dd will cope with the rest of the assessments now, this has put too much pressure on her and she is hysterical.

On the other hand salt have been lovely. Decided to break dds assessment down into 3 parts so she doesn't become overwhelmed and withdrawn.

Am I being unreasonable about this?

This is not on. You're supposed to be told. Though I've done my share of moaning about dc1's school, they've always told me about assessments. One was an 'extra' classroom obs when the ed psych had finished something else early... they rang DH up at work to make sure it was ok.

Now... it's horrible to have a massively distressed dc. It may, however, mean that the LA's ed psych's report accurately reflects the reality of your dc's school life. Given the brief observations & minimal testing they're usually limited to, this is quite rare. Make sure you inform the ed psych now about the aftermath, as that info should form part of her report.

Towiela and IE are right about the law. While doing that lot, be aware that some ed psychs are trying their best within a bad system. Perhaps 'complain' about the failure-to-inform to school and 'inform' the ed psych? You want to cover your dc's arse in case the report is inaccurate, but if helpful, to avoid the LA having grounds to disregard it.