Ok I am sitting in the car

[Nerfmother]

I have had to leave the house . Ds has hit me twice, had a screaming fit over some art thing he wants to enter, chucked pens everywhere, thrown shoes. I have restrained his wrists ( carefully) to stop him hitting me, he has tied scarves round his neck to demonstrate how cross he is and is refusing to now go upstairs. I have given him the pen he needs I have stayed calm I have not hit him or hurt him or retaliated but I am exhausted. Poor dh is soooo snowed under trying to work but I have left them.
Nothing from camhs despite our meeting about his anxieties and OCD stuff - clearly the end of school is doing his head in but I am exhausted.

You poor thing. It is relentless isn't it? And a particularly bad time of year. End of school madness etc.

I think we end up like sponges, soaking up the emotional anger and keeping calm to get them back in track, and it is exhausting.

Are you still in the car? Can you go out to the shop or for a walk just to get some fresh air and a change of scene.

Don't feel bad. A quick break is nothing in the scheme of things. If he is freaked out, can you give him a short break from school even just a day to let him lounge around unpressured?

I do sympathise

Hi. Thank you. I came back, he is slightly calmer but on the verge of losing it again. It's such a joke, all this 'early intervention' I keep hearing. Six months to an assessment and then waiting with no strategies to tide us over. This is the first time I actually considered calling social services.

Actually a short break from school would have been good, but not a good time now. I am under a lot of work stress so need to be doing things without him at home - balancing act.

Thanks Polter, thought I might get told off for leaving. Just beyond my 'coping' stage at the moment.

I can often be found in my car, sometimes driving around aimlessly or parked somewhere just listening to music. You have to do it sometimes other wise you'd just explode.

Hope tomorrow brings some calm

I'm a lone parent so can't do that (no other adult in the house). I can stand outside my front door with a cup of coffee and a cig though if need be. (funnily enough it tends to be "professionals" that drive me to this rather than DS!).

So the solution is to take up smoking again
How does a ten year old have so much control though? Up and down the stairs all last night, this morning I have taken him to early club because he was screaming about needing to go and I am so pathetic I just wanted him gone. It gives me fifteen normal minutes with the little ones without him.
I am going to ring the police today to see if they do any kind of Sony hit your mother early intervention chat for asd types.

I used to escape out side for a fag until I stopped smoking and now I still escape outside but I water the plants do a bit of weeding or peg some washing out. When I get the washing in I stand and fold everything so it takes ages and reduces the stress levels all around.

There is nothing wrong with walking away. I have to do it with Dd3 as there is no chance she will back down, ever!!

Good luck over the next few days

Thank you. Just seem to be accelerating to the wrong side of normal iyswim. He's always been able to do a good impression of fitting in ( so avoided too much teasing etc) but this is getting worse and worse. I just want him to go away sometimes so I can recharge. I don't have the energy anymore: I can't work full time so we are skint and my career is over and it s all so hard

Yes, getting Dla. Used it for a residential camp last year which was great