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Opening post:
Long time lurker... DD1 is 12, in year 7 and is quiet, hard-working and has a tight group of friends, mostly girls. She was recently hauled into the headteacher's office, along with two boys, about bullying a boy in her class. The boy in question has no SEN but she says his parents recently divorced and no-one really likes him. She swears she hasn't said anything mean to him, no verbal or physical bullying at all, and the headteacher confirmed the boy hadn't accused her of that (though he did accuse the others) - but he is lonely and wants to be friends with her. She's told me (through her tears) that he stares at her in lessons and she finds him "creepy" and quite intimidating. The headteacher has told her she has to make an effort to include him at breaktimes. She is torn between wanting to do as the teacher has said, and really not liking the boy. She spends her lunchtimes with her girly friends who categorically don't want to have this boy join them. AIBU to think WTAF? Surely at 12 children can make their own decisions about who to be friends with?
The bullied boy sounds quite immature: he plays with toy cars at break and makes animal noises in class whereas my daughter and her friend are into pop music and popstars.
It turns out he's been stabbing his hands and arms with compass points and pens during lessons, and he's had a lot of time off this term. He's also written things on his pencil case like 'I want to die' and... DD1's name. Apparently he's been following her around at lunchtime and she's been getting teased by other children who say she's his girlfriend. She's scared of him, finds him creepy and doesn't want to be around him, to the extent where she sometimes hides in the loo at break.
The poor boy 
