Child in Need meeting today

[NoHaudinMaWheest]

We have this dreaded meeting this afternoon.
A meeting with the SW on Friday cleared up some issues. In particular we are having this meeting because of the complexity of DS's disability rather than for CP issues.
However there are still parenting issues according to them and I fear we are in the middle of a territorial battle between SS and CAMHS.
I have been able to use this meeting to put some of the things DS needs and I have been banging on about for years in some cases on the agenda.

So honks needed that I am strong enough to get them acutally actioned.
And thanks for the support so far. I am much less of a mess than I would be otherwise.

Honk Honk stay strong xx

Ask CAMHS exactly what the parenting issues are?

and good luck

Honk.

Get the parenting issues in writing.

Thanks. Just off now will update later.

hope it goes well for you. Cheeky feckers.

I agree, get These 'parenting issues' quantified and put in writing. Maybe a tactic to stress you out so you will be less effective getting what you need for your DS. Sorry, have become v cynical.

Hope it went well!

Thanks for the support.

The SW manager who chaired the meeting was fairly effective.

I managed to get people - defined in each case - to agree to look into the services DS needs.

The main parenting concerns are Ds's lack of independence and tensions between DH and myself.

The independence thing is frustrating. No matter how much I say it, it does not seem to register that his lack of independence is due to his diagnoses and that we are working on it. I suspect that because he will be 18 in just over a year there is a feeling that he 'ought' to be independent by then. (Just as if we say all children should be walking by 2 or talking in sentences by 4 they all magically will regardless of disability or intervention. )

The main cause of tension between Dh and me is, I'm sure, his undiagnosed ASD. I did discover today that there is now a dedicated ASD service for adults so if I can get Dh to access that it may make a difference.

I will go with their 'parenting intervention' for the moment as there is plenty of scope for me to feedback my views as it has been set up and hope that they quickly realise that it is not needed. In other words playing the game no matter how much it grates.

His new 6th form school were there and the head of 6th form seemed taken aback about the extent of his needs. I felt that at one point she was saying we had deceived her about them. However SENCO was more on the ball and it is true that most of his OCD doesn't affect school. Bit worried about future attitudes there though.

I'm glad it went well. It must be so frustrating for you.