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Should I push for assessment or is it just immaturity

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minniemagoo · 11/07/2013 14:16

Dd2 is six and a half. She has a number of behaviours that for want of another word worry me. I have also been able to observe her in a couple of camp situations recently that have highlighted further things.
She is very immature for her age which in conjunction with being tall make her stand out iykwim.
She has to touch, rub, put near/in her mouth lots of things. She fidgets constantly eg at a 10min sit down recently she spent the entire show pulling at a thread on the mat, proceeded to touch it off her face and eventually put it in her mouth. Following day, similar situation, did the same with a piece of card. She seemed oblivious to the show but was able to recount it all later.
She is apparently easily distracted in class but also will follow an instruction to refocus. Teacher gave us some work to do over their summer on letters but otherwise has no problems with reading etc. However in sports, camps etc instructors don't seem to be able to engage her and she gets left at the side.
She easily goes into meltdown, not temper just complete sobbing that goes as quickly as it comes, can't accept 'no' but gets over it quickly.
She is friendly with everyone but has no best friend, joins and leaves games with no fuss, just wanders off on her own, seems happy. Is a very loving child, great hugs :)
She much prefers to be naked, will often take off layers and come home in just dress ( no uniform). Has no sense of modesty yet.
Dd1 (9) is extremely accomplished both accademcally and in sport, very independent etc and I try very hard not to compare and I don't know if Dd2 is just immature for her age or should I ask for an assessment.
Tia, feel free we to ask questions as all help/views appreciated

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 11/07/2013 14:44

I would ask your GP to refer your DD to a developmental paediatrician for further evaluation. Your concerns are valid ones and need addressing.

PolterGoose · 11/07/2013 16:05

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Ineedmorepatience · 11/07/2013 16:18

Definitely keep a diary of unusual behaviours, what causes them (if you know) and how you deal with them.

It can be difficult for proffs to recognise some conditions in girls because they can be superficially social and are able to effectively mask their difficulties at school only to explode at home.

Good luck Smile

minniemagoo · 11/07/2013 16:37

Thank you all so much for your replies. I feel myself she may have some additional social needs but Dh thinks I am over reacting and its just immaturity.
Last year the start of the school year was a nightmare getting out the door as she really wanted to be back in the previous years class, yet once at school she was fine. Her teacher took my concerns and did a lot of work about moving on etc but Dh feels that if there was a problem her teacher would have highlighted it. I feel her teacher has been brilliant reacting to specific concerns but I cant keep going in and out when I think there is a bigger picture. Will get proactive and chase it up.

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