I've posted many a time under various names not in a while though. Ds is 7 now and was dx with sensory seeking behaviours at age 5, discharged from 0T shortly after and now we are awaiting referral to CAHMS from community pead who he seen for 10-15 mins. Pead says in her opinion ds has ADHD with many sensory issues and is not ASD as far to social she also sees no motor issues as he can run, hop and skip.
Quick recap ds was a slow to develop baby and toddler physically (slow to climb, run, still cant ride a bike etc.) and with speech, always very needy and with many sensory issues mainly seeking behaviours, physical tics, tip toe walking etc. as a toddler he never role played although will now, lined up toys, flicked switches and banged doors obsessively had massive need for routine and had many meltdowns i was sure he was asd.
BUT he is VERY social talks to every one, is over familiar with them will sit on them even try and lick them if he gets too hyped up, wants friends even if they are nasty although in reality has only 1 he homes in on adults like their purpose is to amuse him. Think a black hole of neediness.
I'm struggling i cannot keep up with the constant need for his attention he is unable to amuse himself and is like my shadow, he will not listen to anything i ask of him in fact earlier when i frustratingly said to him 'will you do anything your told?' smiled and said 'no'. i cant take him anywhere as he runs off, jumps, skips, grabs anything, he very nearly fell under a car yesterday as he tip toe walks and its like his bottom half is disconnected from his top he staggers like a drunk. Every time i ask him to do something he stares at me blankly like his eyes are burning through me for as long as he possibly can i.e walking backwards to where he is going, he will not let me and dh be in a room together at all unless he is there and will SCREAM until one of us comes back, no consequence for behaviour works at all ive tried everything its like he us unable to make the connection despite knowing it. Anything anyone does he wants to do better even though he rarely can and for this the other children near by don't want to play with him he will not tolerate losing. Its constant 'LOOK AT ME, LOOK WHAT I CAN DO!! all the time. Eg a neighbour said that ds2 (1) is a good walker and ds1 started screaming look look at me i can walk too watch me walk..., he is always like this with everything does this sound like ADHD? its draining just hearing his voice each morning and its horrible to feel like this
im aware i sound like a terrible mother but nothing seems to fit him i don't understand him at all