It doesn't help that I'm tired, I know.
Went in to collect DD from an after school club, got grabbed as I walked past the staff room. "Could I have a word..."
As usual my heart sinks, its unlikely to be about how wonderful DD has been. Nope its an observation that whilst she is finding A upsets her and teases, she is also annoying him --- of course she does when I told you how upset she had been by him I wasn't necessarily saying he was a "bad boy" just that he upsets her, she is undergoing diagnosis for ASD, she doesn't get social situations. I am trying not to be prejudiced myself, because I know his older brothers could be mean, and bright/entrance exam passing boys like him are normally esteemed by your school.
Then its the real reason. She is supposed to have asked some year 3's to have sex. I do know how bad this looks, I've done safe guarding training. We have been trying to get through to her that she is too young to talk about sex at school. She isn't even really interested, she is still scared about the body changes that will happen over the next couple of years, but she does use inappropriate language. I talk and talk to her, but it doesn't get through.
Her class teacher wants to talk to me about it. Wants me to set up an appointment with the head, wants us to "work together". Sure, but it hasn't done that much over the last year, has it? The only thing that has worked is the Educational Psychologist from CAHMS, who seems to get through to her. The head doesn't like her, and has described her in terms that CAHMS find very negative for a 10 year old. He also said he would understand her behaviour more if she was a boy.
We have an appointment with CAHMS tomorrow, and I will bring all this up. I am also supposed to be going to a parenting workshop based at the school, run by CAHMS, but I'm not sure I really want to anymore.
Last week, after up to then a really good term (no incidents), she had repeatedly hit a year 3 girl. When I talked to her she really didn't see what was worse about the hitting as opposed to her friend who had said some unpleasant things to the same girl.
Then she came home in flood of tears, but the reason she said she was upset doesn't seem to match with reality. I am confused, as I really don't think she was upset over what she said (not being able to do something, which she would now like to opt out of anyway). So why was she upset?
Now I'm in tears as I have no idea what to do. She is miserable in school, and says she has no friends. I feel so tempted to home school her, but don't know if this will look worse. I'd like it if she could go to a more demanding school academically, but even if she could pass the entrance exam, we could pay the fees, would they take her or would her behaviour be so bad she would be expelled? (DH would have to agree too, which will be difficult to get.)