I am struggling and am scared today. Very scared for my little girl on the spectrum. She is so verbal but clueless in complex social situations. 3 ex - kindly guide!
- Today a friend reprimanded (v normally) her for plucking a weed flower. I usually let her do as she likes it. Dd's face just went down and there were big tears in her eyes. I distracted her and she was fine but I could see in the near future how she won't be able to take even little telling off.
- The same friend also pointed out that dd talks in a "rude" tone back to me. Yes, she does. That is her tone and we are working on "softening" it so that it is socially acceptable and does not sound rude.
- I run a solid aba vb program with my little one. The whole day goes in her therapy, food and I am also doing aba with her literally all the time outside of her sessions. The rest of the time, I place demands like take a bath, eat your food...I feel like a bloody soldier with her and when I wish to play, she clamps up but is great with her dad. Dad chides her and plays well but there is no skills gaining happening there.
Where am I going wrong? I am sooooo looking at RDI now cos' of this...but I have already heard enough from everyone telling me I am a bad mother....from my in laws, my own mum (though she understands me now), my husband does understand and is fully on board. Dd talking to me in a "rude" voice and crying all the time shows me up as a bad mum...still...I do feel gutted that am I genuinely going wrong somewhere in being a good mum???? I love her to bits and was the first one to recognise her symptoms, move fast, convince my hubby, set up a program...why am I reminded of being a bad mum all the time??? This is the only thing ever that makes me cry now a days...I have been strong enough to do all the things parctically otherwise - statementing, aba, school negotiations and biomed.
Pls pitch in with your advise.