coping with it all

[aladdinsane]

my DD is not obviously disabled - like many of our children
Other children know she is different though and, despite the best efforts of the school, she is often left out of things
I do understand that other children can find her difficult to cope with
It has reached a new level now. Last year a child in her class had a 'whole class party' apart from my DD
This boy has now started telling the class he is doing the same again (they are 7) and that his dad doesnt like my DD and wants to 'knock her head off'
HT has taken this very seriously but i am so upset and very tearful
Is this her life where she is going to be ostracised by parents too

i hear you, and am still clinging (by my fingernails) to the hope that not all people are as awful as those you describe, but they do exist

i cope by having the theory that those awful people would pick on anyone - it's not 'personal' against your DD

i'm also very glad you've brought this bullying to the HTs attention, and they have taken the issue on

{{hugs}} OP

That is horrific and I have to say it's really unusual and I don't think that this is normal behaviour. I think we all accept that if it's a small party our dds won't be invited but when it's a whole class then my autistic dd always has been (or maybe I'm just ignorant of her being left out). I'm really please the head is treating this seriously as it is an awful thing to happen. You have every right to feel upset but this is nothing to do with your dd and to do with this horrendous, obnoxious father. I wish I could meet up with him and "knock his head off'.

This isn't her life, it is just one isolated, horrendous incident which you must see as being just that.

Ah that's awful behaviour. Yes we know our dc's are not likely to get invited to most parties and its heart breaking watching the invites go round. however, inviting the whole
Class and leaving one child out is totally out of order. Shame on these people! What a disgusting father to say such a thing.

Thank you
its awful how intolerant some people are but you are right, it says more about their own ignorance than anything else
My dd desperately wants friends so its heartbreaking to watch

That's terrible. I hope the head teacher deals with it in a way that is satisfactory

Can you imagine the home that child comes from where the dad talks about any other child in that way or even talks that way . I wonder happens when his own ds behaves in a way he doesn't like?

I know you are upset and it is devastating when our dc are so obviously left out of things. But allow yourself a smug hug and smile that your dd does not come from that home and that she has you looking out for her.

As for the dad, well, he'll get the benefits of his parenting style in years to come ....