Absolutely furious at caring carrot in medical report.

[Bluebirdonmyshoulder]

I am very very very angry.

Received report this morning from bluechick's paediatrician about our last appointment with her. It states,

"Mr and Mrs Bluebird have recently realised that bluechick is a gorgeous little girl and this is making it easier for them to bond with her."

WTF????? 'Recently realised'??? We've ALWAYS thought she's gorgeous, her gorgeousness is NOT THE FUCKING PROBLEM.

Grrrrrrrr.

Hi bluebird, I don't know anything about your situation but I had to reply. I would be beside myself with anger, how dare such a disgusting and obviously inaccurate thing be written - as you say you've always known her gorgeousness but that is obviously not why a report is being written.

What are you going to do?

Bluebird that is absolutely terrible. What a patronising assumption making thing to write! Seething for you.

bluebird Let it out! What a knobule!

This makes me wonder if your Dd is under the same peadiatrician as my Dniece. She has just turned 2 can hardly walk due to hypermobility issues, her right eye is almost shut because her lid droops so much, she is stimming left right and centre (even I would of noticed this before I knew what stimming was!), she only squeals and says 2 just about understandable words.....yet the report says; xxxxx was a very pleasant, talkative little girl, she is developing well and the peadiatrician does not see any need for concern????...even had the cheek to suggest a triple p course for my sister. Reading the report I swear she had mixed her up with another child.

I will never understand these people...never.

That is appalling, I'm feeling quite angry on your behalf and I don't know you!. I would write a letter of complaint. What on earth was he/she thinking?

WTF?

My first thought (after WFT?) is the same as what zzzzz said.

WTF? what on earth was the paed thinking?

agree with zzzzz - ask paed to rewrite the report.

Have just been in tears over this.

The report is Cc'ed to loads of other professionals too, including my lovely GP. I'm just so angry, it makes us sound like awful horrible parents.

Think I'm going to write and say that I wish to register my objection to that sentence and cc everyone who was cc'ed.

Bloody hell, when will it be ok to be worried / aggrieved / concerned that your DC has a potentially (very) life limiting condition and that this does NOT mean you don't love your child.

I REALLY object to the expectation that we should all skip around happily saying, "Ooh, Holland is really rather lovely isn't it".

Bluechick is utterly lovely, her condition is not. I love bluechick to the ends of the universe. I very much dislike her condition. I consult medical professionals about her condition, not about whether she's lovely or not.

Well make sure you copy all those people in on your return letter.
What an absolute presumptuous patronising twat - garner up all that upset and make her look like the fool she is.

I think it is deeply unprofessional, not to mention vile, of Bluechick's paed and you deserve the report rewritten, the other professionals notified and an apology. Last I checked, paediatricians were not there to pass sweeping judgements on how parents may or may not feel.

How they can translate concern and a want to bring about the best for your child into a lack of bonding or love is beyond me. Seems to rather suggest the opposite in fact!

Oh my god how horrible for you what a totally rubbish thing to write!

I'm so sorry. This is a truly awful and a wicked thing for the paed to write.

Thanks all, glad I'm not over-reacting.

Have just told DH and he is furious too. He remembers the paed saying something alluding to this during the appointment (I don't remember) and wished at the time that he'd asked her to clarify what she meant.

We're going to compose a letter tonight.

God that is appalling and a real step up (down) from the patronising guff about x, y and z being a 'lovely little girl'.
I'd write a short but stiff letter to offender, copying in all concerned stating that in future you expect such letters to stick to medical facts and to not include ludicrous value judgements which are of no relevance to the situation and furthermore, no business of anyone but yourself.

I'm feeling your rage.. Ridiculous ridiculous comment.

I'd add that due ti the breech if trust you are formally request ALL future reports be sent to you before being circulated in order fir you to check them for accuracy.