At what age would you tell a kid off for staring?

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Yesterday we went out for a walk. DS1 started kicking off a bit, so I had both hands on him, he was trying to pull me over/run away. My helper person had ds2 and ds3 who were waiting to start the walk.

A child of about 11 (maybe 10, maybe 12) was running past ds1, he stopped about 1 or 2 feet away and just stared. Like he was watching TV or something. I stared back, but didn't say anything.He stayed there staring until I managed to get ds1 away. Partly I didn't say anything because I was trying to deal with ds1 so was talking to him, but partly because I don't know at what age children should be expected not to stare. I have noticed that early teens are often the worst offenders.

Also thought of that film and the "teach your children some compassion" line or however it goes when the boy is staring at thr flicky flappy boy.

Argghhh! I'm so inarticulate tonight! No I certainly don't think you need to turn educator in the middle of everything else you have to deal with, but that people like me who are parents of trainee starers should educate them so that by the time they reach 10or 11 you don't need to worry about telling them to Feck off under your breath

The responsibility to educate is not your's it is ours!

In the circumstances you outlined, you were quite within your rights to tell him to feck off and stop staring you gormless article!

oh phew- I was worried I was failing in my civic duty. :)

TBH I felt Iike poking his eyes out, but I know that's not reasonable, and I was also interested in what age it stops being generally acceptable to stare.

Perhaps he doesn't have a TV at home :o Ds1 must have been the holiday special.

made me laugh at the holiday entertainment, our family are usually the free instore entertainment

when we had to take ds to the hospital for check ups on his broken leg the whole waiting room stared at us

i was ready with my cards from NAS to hand out also i carry on a key ring symbols for ds so made a big poinit of looking at them at playing with them to draw attention to them, one woman just didnt take the hint so so i said out load to dp "for goodness sake,i wish people would stop staring at him, hes an autistic child with a broken leg what do they expect"
with that the woman then smiled at me i said to dp stuff her shes only smiling now cause she thinks ds isnt being naughty

its very sad the way society judges

what really shocked me last year i did the earlybird course and we were told to try to stop our children doing things in public like hand flapping,rocking in pushchair that we should tell them hands down so not to draw attention to them selves

with that i said im not going to condition ds for society, its societys problem not mine yes i dont want ds sticking out like a sore thumb but am i going to put him through a boot camp just so society will accept him???? I DONT THINK SO