A little moan

[blueeyedmonster]

I am SICK of being hit/kicked/punched/scratched/spat at/shouted at/having things thrown at me and being headbutted.

Nothing works, nothing at all. He gets told no............he attacks (admittedly himself too it's not just us), something goes wrong..............he attacks, he doesn't get his own way................he attacks. Just lately it seems to be for no reason at times too.

I have tried EVERYTHING and nothing works. I'm at the end of idea, don't know what to to. Had a convo with my stepmum and she just made me feel like rubbish tbh. Told me to do stuff that we've tried and said I should be able to stop him.

I want 1 week where things are calm one weeks break from all this (it's not just the violence but that is the hardest to deal with). A small amount of time where we don't have to be 'on guard'.

Right now that's out hopefully I can stopp wallowing.

Thank you, i'll look up those books tonight when i'm child free.

He's 5 and has no dx as yet but we have our first CAMHS appointment next week so hopefully they'll see what we do and asess him (it's what I asked for when I asked for referral)

Yes ds seems to have trouble telling us when he's cross/angry/sad and just lashes out instead. He can articulate it but doesn't.
He has lots of fiddle toys and we made him a sensory/chill out area in a tent in his room but getting him there can be tricky at times.

Thanks for reading and the advice much appreciated.

Yes I am seriously dreading him going into yr 1. He was not great yesterday and they'd had an afternoon in new class. Same the week before. Actually hit me on school grounds both times and he is apparently an angel at school!

I have been writing what happens before he is lashing out and the worst seems to be the day after they've broken up for school hols, a change in routine there (school trips, seeing new class etc) I'm going to check when other things are now!

I'd love a weighted blanket but they cost so much and funds are tight right now. It's definately something i'm looking into though.

The transition is an interesting one, hadn't thought of it before. Will keep that in mind, especially for september!

Are you getting DLA? You can apply for this even before you have a formal diagnosis so it may be worth looking into. Also there are kits of charities out there who could help towards the cost of a weighted blanket. You may even find that your local NHS OT dept can loan them out?
As for him having difficulty telling you how he is feeling could you make up some symbols? So for example a red angry face or a yellow smiley face etc. He could then have a board to stick them on to let you know how he is feeling and perhaps have some symbols of things he likes to do to help calm him down, so he could pick the angry symbol and then pick the computer symbol for example.

Lots of charities not kits!

I'm not sure.....it's odd' He has an iep for shouting out and listening etc. He's getting 1-1 time with the teacher and he's having intensive SALT (or has been, hassn't had the stickers saying he's been for a while) daily. BUt they say he's not a problem at school and they find him fine, just an active chatty kid They don't get him being volotile there so it doesn't really affect them.

boobybum No i'm not, only found out a week or so ago you could get it with no dx!!.
I do need to do a symbols fellings thingy for him. Thanks. I want to go to work and make some PECS symbols up but it's finding the time where I can sneak in and do it really. I am wishing I hadn't got rid of the program I had here!!. Might find some at home until I can sort the pecs out. Thank you.
I'll look into the charities too!