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I can never go back to the park again....

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neverputasockinatoaster · 18/06/2013 18:39

I really cannot do this on my own any more....

DS didn't go to sleep last night until around 11. He is generally anxious about school at the moment and last night he was worrying about the Sun swallowing up the Universe in a giant black hole...

If he didn't need the sleep I wouldn't mind but he does and he is shattered.

When I picked him up tonight his teacher wanted to talk to me about an incident on Friday and he started barging into me to make me hurry up.. I ignored as usual. He looked so tired and his eyes are all red from hayfever too. He also looked full of thunder.

We went to the park as we normally do. DD (who is being a right pain in the backside at the moment) wouldn't let DS on the roundabout with her so I dealt with that. Then DS stomped off in a sulk which I ignored. Then DS started pushing DD on the roundabout and she was doing her screeching thing and refusing to use words. Then they started taking lumps out of each other. I sorted them out and gave them a warning about behaviour... If they did x or y again we were going home early. They then began to shout at each other as being the cause of the threat....... So I said we were going home. DD ran off and DS grabbed hold of me screaming and yelling, grabbing my dress and trying to rip it. I then had to manhandle him out of the park while a millionty parents stood and looked at me with cats bum mouths and DD wailed beside me. He pulled me over, screeched that he hoped that Daddy would soon realise what a rubbsih person I was and throw me out...

A lovely bunch of teenagers asked if I was OK but that was it. I got them in the car and stood outside and sobbed. He is 8. He comes up to my nose. He is too strong already.

I am sure I made a millionty mistakes in what I did. I am about 100% positive I caused the whole thing. I cannot do this any more.

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PolterGoose · 18/06/2013 19:38

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StarlightMcKenzie · 18/06/2013 19:47

OH you poor thing.

I don't see how you caused it. You've got a lot to deal with and you are doing the best you can. You were derailed by the teacher and general lack of support.

That is not YOUR fault.

inappropriatelyemployed · 18/06/2013 19:52

I am so sorry - after schools can be an absolute nightmare. Why do teachers and SENCOs insist on stopping us on the way out!

DS gets so stressed on leaving school, we can't wait without preparation.

Polter could be right. Could he just need to chill out after school? No people, no expectations, just snack and DVD/TV?computer and left alone??

neverputasockinatoaster · 18/06/2013 19:59

Thing is DS normally loves the park. He normally loves to just do hi s own thing or play with DD and her friend. That's why we go. That's why he hates to wait - because we are missing park time.

I should add that we live a long way from school - due to my work and our twon counties having such stupidly different holidays. So the park allows him to de stress before a 20 - 30 min car journey home.

I keep crying. I rang the paed's office to chase the behaviour nurse and she's away for 2 weeks. They don't know why it has taken so long for her to get back to me. I found the letter today and he was referred in January. Rang my GP but they were closed for staff training.

So very very tempted to ring in sick tomorrow - I am about to crash and burn. I cannot sustain this any more. But we have drop in observations on Thursday and if I am off the gossips will say I've done it to avoid being observed......

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MumuDeLulu · 18/06/2013 20:01

Yep. Practice makes perfect. In a mirror Grin then in RL
Can we have a word?' 'yes, call me at 5, bye'
Try the for persistent offenders.

I have also Blush been known to provoke the other dc a bit so their screaming gets rid of senco before dc1 blows

MumuDeLulu · 18/06/2013 20:04

Sod the gossips.
Hopefully the observers will spot them wasting valuable work time on whining and speculation.

MumuDeLulu · 18/06/2013 20:05

Is he waiting to see which teacher it is next year?

neverputasockinatoaster · 18/06/2013 20:10

MumuDeLulu - yes, this is part of the stress. he is terrified he will get Mr X as Mr X is very shouty. His current teacher has promised me he will NOT get Mr X. The phrase 'over my dead body' was used.

She may be a chocolate teapot but she has her moments!

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Flappingandflying · 18/06/2013 21:02

Poor poor you. You didn't cause it. You are all knackered so anything would have triggered it. Flyingboy once had the massivist tantrum outside school and then tried to kill us in the car going home. If you met him now you wouldn't thinkit was the same person.

I think wine and a duvet day are in order. Be kind to yourself.

ouryve · 18/06/2013 23:23

That sounds all too familiar, never [hugs]Wine

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