I posted elsewhere but was advised to repost here so here goes!
I am at the end of my tether and baffled as to where to go now. DS is 4 and has always been hyperactive. In the last few months he has been getting increasingly hard to handle. He is loud, constantly talking and can't seem to switch off unless there's a screen in front of him. He is very violent at random and this is happening at nursery and at home. He calls people names, he wants constant 1:1 attention which is not feasible. He used to go to bed every night at 6 and now its more like 8/9 by the time I can settle him and he gets up at 6am.
Nothing I do or say seems to make a difference. I've tried time outs, taking away toys/treats and praising the good behaviour. Nursery say he is highly intelligent and when he is being good he is an angel but 90% of the time he is a nightmare (I hate saying that).
He talks over people constantly, he screams and lashes out over very small things and he cant sit still. At meal times he will be out of his seat every 2 minutes for one reason or another. He still isn't fully toilet trained and will have days when he is completely dry and others where he will have 5 or 6 accidents. He has pooed in a toilet about 7 times ever, usually it is in his pants and he wont always say he has done it. The doctor gave him constipation medication but it hasn't made any difference.
He is always on the go, always fidgeting. He climbs everything (found him trying to climb over the bannisters earlier when he was supposed to be in bed- he has no fear). I work in early years and the other 4 year olds I see are nothing like this. His nursery manager is MIL who says he is just a typical 4 year old boy but he is not like anything else I have ever seen. DP has ADHD that wasn't picked up on for years and he suffered at school as a result. He says it's just me giving into DS and not being consistent enough with discipline but he is like it at nursery as well. We haven't had a week without him hurting another child and I don't remember the last time I looked forward to spending time with DS without dreading what would happen.
If I take him to the dr's will they just think I'm a crap parent? Sorry this is so long. I don't know what to do. He starts school in September and I don't want him being labelled as a naughty kid if there is an issue.