Feeling tearful re school report

[Summer96]

Just got DS's EYFS report. He is graded below expectations in every single category. He's got learning difficulties so this was expected but still can't help feeling tearful... Do you ever get used to it?

Don't get used to it - seriously - please don't. If it never affects you, you won't feel compelled to keep fighting "the good fight" on behalf of your ds.

We have been doing this for ages. In all honesty, seeing the reports still cuts me a bit. I have to give myself permission to grieve, or I can't move forward. I read it, get emotional, then once I have regained my composure, read it again and again until I understand how the words on the paper impact our lives as a whole. In many cases, they really don't

Then I file it away, because, as sure as I am typing this, there will be another report, soon or off in the distance, that will contradict or negate virtually every thing that this one says - it is the nature of the game.

Oh, and then I have

Every report, every meeting usually whips me up into a rage that the whole system is not working to help my DS.

Once calm I usually make a to do list to get help and sort out the problems.

Everytime I hit the "send" button to an email I usually say "take that" so the recipient has to get on with their job of helping DS.

When there is no meeting or report for a while I go through old correspondence and then make a new to do list to get help and sort out the problems.

I don't accept what is happening to DS so probably still not come to terms with things after four years.

I just keep on trying to help poor DS it is a constant treadmill or partime job.

Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks a lot for your replies guys.....it's good to know that there are other people out there in the same boat and who care enough to reply to a stranger.

Thanks for the advice.....means a lot. Will definitely try the glass of wine!

Whose expectations is he graded below? Theirs or yours?

Learning difficulties means just that. If you found an elderly lady with a heavy suitcase at the bottom of the stairs would you leave her there?

Would you help her up just 2 steps and leave her there whilst saying that is the best to be expected?

Thank the school for the helpful information then let them know you have high expectations of their interventions and to tell you which specific areas they are going to prioritise for intensive support.